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How do you stop your relationship going stale?

14 replies

SaraEl · 14/12/2018 20:03

I've been in a relationship with an amazing guy for a year, the beginning was the usual excited buzz, now we live together (starting 3 months ago) and I love it, we're both really happy. In previous relationships i've found it difficult from about 18 months to keep that initial passion alive and for various reasons past relationships have failed.

I'm really optimistic about this relationship but i'd love to know those little mastermind tips and tricks you use to keep things awesome.

We do love and honour each other, try and surprise each other etc and recently for his birthday one of the gifts was a couples journal which i think has reaaaally helped us to put feelings to words, with a bit of fun, to look back on. Its a 3 year one and you each write a line a day - we're loving doing it and are learning quite a bit about each other. We are both surprising each other with the comments and i hope it will be great to look back on.

It's here in case anyone is interested - amzn.to/2zZ7BI1

Would love to hear what other things you guys do!

OP posts:
SendintheArdwolves · 14/12/2018 20:23

The most important thing is to make sure that YOU stay happy and engaged with growing yourself as a person.

Read, study, engage with music, your friends, your hobbies - whatever makes you feel like a fun, happy, balanced person. Have opinions about the world, pursue goals, grow and change.

Nesting and date nights are great, but if you be the best person you can be for yourself. If you're bored, no amount of flowers and sweet words will make you happy.

ImNotKitten · 14/12/2018 20:24

Is this an advert?

Honeyroar · 14/12/2018 20:28

Not with a couples journal, that's for sure! Sounds really contrived.

A good relationship just works, you spend time with someone you love, who you enjoy being with, it is easy. If you have to invent things and work to keep the relationship going is it right anyway?

DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 14/12/2018 20:34

Couples journal?

I’d end up writing “pick up milk” “don’t forget parents evening” after the first page...

trojanpony · 14/12/2018 21:09

Couples journal Confused really?

What on earth do you write?
What have you learned?

userxx · 14/12/2018 21:26

How bizarre. Think I'd dump someone if they suggested that.

cooblanket · 14/12/2018 21:31

Not exactly subtle advertising, is it? Same with your post on the book thread.

Dirtybadger · 14/12/2018 21:47

A couples journal after a year? Next!

If the spark was lost within 18 months then the answer was that they were not the right person.

festivedogbone · 14/12/2018 21:55

Not a very subtle advert, this Hmm

KrispyKremes · 14/12/2018 21:56

Nice try. Hmm

BillywilliamV · 14/12/2018 22:16

Not even sure that my DH can write...tbh

Kittykat93 · 14/12/2018 22:34
Hmm
Benjaminbuttonschild · 15/12/2018 00:03
Hmm
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