Christmas Party Drama

[Gypsyboy]

Would you be overly bothered if your partner went on his Christmas party and photos came out on social media of him with a female colleague very close. Not doing anything, but very close body language wise - heads close together, her chest touching his etc?

I wouldn’t like it, a picture alone though isn’t much to get that worked up over unless there’s further incriminating behaviour

Chests touching? Were they slow-dancing? Doesn't sound good to me - a man in a committed relationship shouldn't be smooching with a work colleague.

No, just standing for the picture holding drinks in one hand and her chest touching his chest/arm

No, not if that was the only evidence. People often put their Arms round each other for photos at parties.

No arms round each other, just leaning into each other - 3 people in the photo, one other standing straight and the two leaning into each other

You can see the picture and we can't - you may be picking up something from their body language that we can't comment on.

But from what you said - that sounds fine. It sounds like they were standing next to each other and someone said "budge up, get in the picture" and so they squeezed together for the photo. Your original post made it sound like they were chest to chest, but actually they were side by side, is that right?

I'm obviously not phrasing it well! :) By chest to chest I mean standing at an angle towards each other with her boobs pressing to his chest

If it is just this photo then I would say this is fine. I wouldn't turn a hair if I saw a picture of my boyfriend standing like this with a work colleague.

If I was the one in the photo and my boyfriend started freaking out and saying that I must be cheating, I would think he was crazy, controlling and dumped.

Do you have other concerns - about this woman, about your husband maybe cheating? What is the back story of this, op?

Who don't you trust, him or her?

It sounds ok to me tbh and I'm pretty cynical!

Were they leaning in to get into the frame for the photo or did it look like they'd been caught like that?

Is she looking at the camera or at him?

Unless you have any other reason to be suspicious, this sounds innocent enough.

They were standing that close and the photo was taken rather than squishing for a pic. Both looking at camera

Neither are my partner, the woman in the photo is my friend and is now being gossiped about

Gossiped about by whom?

People at work, they work together

Well if your friend knows it was totally innocent then I'd tell her not to take any notice of gossip. Can she take it up with her manager if it's upsetting her?

Sounds fine to me from the description. She knows it's innocent. Tell her to ignore them.

It’s a photo. Means nothing, gossips are mean people with too much time on their hands

Sounds like a normal photo

People say “smiiiile”
-you put your arm around the person next to you
-give them a hug (& touch chests 😵)
-a photo is taken

Go with your gut , if you think it looks wrong. It is

Oh gosh, I can't imagine having my boobs pressed into a co-workers chest for any reason.

Sounds like you / your friend have some really quite nasty, not to mention childish, co-workers.

It’s all a bit juvenile isn’t it? “Ooh look, Vicky’s boobies are touching him, ooh, she must lurvvve him” etc - tell em to grow the fuck up if you hear it.

Your friend might consider reporting to HR / manager if it doesn’t naturally die down next week.

Your friend might consider reporting to HR / manager if it doesn’t naturally die down next week.

^Unfortunately, he is a manager. I'm sure they aren't commenting to him

They get on very well and get each other but he's taken so there will never be any more to it

I just feel bad for her as she's the one hearing it. Looking at the picture, it does look quite coupley but he wasn't drinking so it's nothing he wouldn't do sober apparently

I've already told one directly to shut up