Getting to know yourself

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Morning all💤

This may be the wrong place I’m not sure. I’m not on here for advice with the love life.

After some recent health issues I’m having some reflect. I feel like I don’t really know myself. I’d love that to change and I hope you have some pointers!

I want to love myself, or as shit as it sounds ‘find’ myself 🤢 I’m never this much of a deep thinker but this past little while showed me that I can handle it! I’m strong when I want to be.

An illness can’t define me. But I want to know what does. I want to feel attractive. For me. I want to be that person I am when in front of others more. I want more confidence.

I’m sorry this is so self absorbed and I want I want I want.

Have you faced any situations in which you felt lost? Or have you had a defining moment when you realised things can and will change? Change terrifies me!

Thanks for reading

This is an interesting question.

The biggest change/loss of sense of self that I remember having was quite recent, when I went on a “career break” from work as an extension to my mat leave- and suddenly realised I’m not on mat leave, I’m not employed, I have no purpose... It really threw me, and challenged me.

I have religious faith and for me that’s the cornerstone of my identity, but I can still feel lost. I’ve come to realise that identities are formed over long time periods, you don’t become anything overnight (usually!). So for example I’ve taken the time on this career break to learn two languages, focus on upskilling for my return to work, visit art galleries. Improve myself, but it’s a slow process.

Is that the sort of thing you’re asking about?

That’s interesting! Are you feeling better within yourself?

Learning the languages is amazing, good for you! I’m not religious at all but I admire those who do have a belief.

I’m not really sure what it is I’m trying to find. I want to know myself on a deeper level I suppose, fix what’s broken. The insecurities. Feeling unattractive after an illness and surgery.

Get general happiness and comfortablness!

What you seek is your authenticity. The falsehood of identity is not real.
Your job, gender, relationship status, political view, education, nationality does not define you but there is something that within you that is real.
Once you start to see from the heart and not the mind it becomes easier. The mind stops you from seeing this because it devours you with thought.

Once you understand this you will be free.

Have a look at this link.