Hurt at being blocked on f.b

[thecatsarecrazy]

Can someone please give me a wobble. I've had a male friend on and off for a year. We stopped speaking a while ago because he just started ignoring my messages so i didn't fight it. No crossed words just let him bee.
On Monday I saw him in town and he was being very immature, saying things to wind me up and when I got home he said you seemed off today? I said yes you hurt me with the things you said. He replied I was joking and unfriended me straight away and blocked me on messenger. I could still see his f.b but unable to send messages. Later that evening he sent a friend request again and later still sent a message saying hope your ok.
Yesterday we spoke as normal said may see you over Christmas if not have a good 1. all ok. Didn't hear from him at all until this evening when he asked if i was ok. I didn't reply because I was busy with my children doing dinner etc. Now I have found I am completely blocked. I can't see his f.b at all on either of my f.b accounts Hes even blocked 1 I don't use.
Im really hurting by this. I think what hurts most is I have just given up work to be a stay at home mum and Im so lonely. He was literally my only friend. He wasn't a very good friend on Monday taking the piss but it really stings :(

I can understand how you feel. That is very immature of him.
I can't think of any logical reason why someone would block/unblock like that. It sounds like he is messing with you. I'm sorry.

It sounds like more than friendship on both sides to me

@thecatsarecrazy Don't worry about it OP, my DSis blocked my number at the beginning of the year without warning, just decided she didn't want to know or talk to me, still haven't got a reason why and it's been almost a year, when my other DSis asked her why she told her she deleted WhatsApp, but can see her WhatsApp on DH phone so was bullshit, have reached out to her 3 times now of his phone and been ignored !! They are not worth knowing Hugs x

He sounds incredibly immature and manipulative. Friends don't do this.

Find a new friend

Sounds like an absolute twat.

Stay far away from him you deserve better. Nobody, can treat a person like they can pick them up and drop them when they feel like it.

He obviously gets a thrill out of your reaction. Sad pathetic little asshole

Thanks everyone. I guess what hurts most is that he did it first. I wouldn't ever block someone unless they had said or done something unpleasant. I will get over it. Im just feeling low atm because the change from working most days and talking to people and staying at home and having no adult to talk to is hard

How old are you both OP? Sounds like school children falling out. If he's that much of an immature idiot you're better off without him as a 'friend'.

He sounds like a complete tool!! Just ignore him next time he unblocks you and tries to be in touch, if you're feeling the need for company try baby groups etc.

He sounds bloody weird. Friends don't treat people the way he has treated you.

Emotionally unstable.

I have family members who do this all the time if their wishes are not pandered to immediately.
I am interested to read PPs explanations for this behaviour such as "emotionally unstable", "sounds like school children falling out" and "immature and manipulative". Sounds about right

He is playing with you...entertainment for him at your expense.

Stop caring what he thinks and block him right back.

Don’t look back.

I get the loneliness and sometimes it can be hard to deal with it. This is where you need to honor yourself and your personal dignity even if you are alone. Can you see that he is mocking your desperation for a friend? That is shameful.

It may be a cliche but this is where you need to be your own best friend. He deserves the burn of being blanked even if he is your only friend.

You need to work on building a social network that doesn't include nobends like him. Block him on your side so he can't keep doing this, and start looking at ways to make new friends.

You’re well rid - he sounds very immature and not a friend at all.

He totally blocked you because you didn’t reply instantly to his message?! Man’s a dick.

I know it’s hard when you’re stuck at home and don’t have a good network of friends to rely on. I don’t either. But you’re better off without ‘friends’ like this one.

I had this with a male friend. Different situation. But he just randomly started having s go at me. When he said something that was an all time low. I ended up blocking him. Best thing I ever did. It was empowering deciding for myself that I didn’t want that kind of friendship in my life

Remember we can’t control others. But we can control how we react

He sounds immature, egotistical and maybe even narcissistic... inability to empathize and only thinks about his (wrongly) hurt feelings.. sounds more like a bully than a friend tbh.

Are you a single parent OP?

Is he 5?! He sounds very immature!

Some people should have to pass a test before they're allowed on social media. I knew someone who called off an engagement by blocking his fiancée on FB then went whining to his son, daughter in law and sister to get them to block his fiancée too! This was a mature man in his 60's!!!

I have a friend exactly like this and have been blocked and unblocked several times during one month for different reasons, some being I didn't agree with his point of view and on another occasion because he disapproved of the company I kept (a perfectly nice woman but one he didn't get along with)

its annoying and hurtful.

Mine is an immature git but does have mental health problems too so I try not to take it personally, he always comes back and apologises.

We've been friends since we were children otherwise I may not have been so forgiving.

I know its isolating feeling lonely but try to make new friends so you're not reliant on somebody so flaky, it doesn't sound like he could be depended on and why should you hang around waiting for him to unblock you every time he has a wobble.