Is this abuse?

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Long story short.
I've got a young baby and got diagnosed with postnatal depression. I been struggling to be happy which has worn my partner down to the point we argue.
He calls me a miserable prick, cunt and said he would have my baby if I tried to leave.
I have no where I could go even if I wanted to.
Being called names and being shouted at makes me close up.
I said I don't like him calling me names and he said well stop pushing me to do it.
It is my fault I said his love was so conditionl and he lost it last night. I always say sorry he never does.
He kept wanting me to cuddle up after and now this morning he's back to being passive aggressive before he leaves for work.
I'm so confused. He's really stressed working and doing up our new house so coming home to me being miserable has made everything worse.

That's a completely unacceptable way for him you treat you. He doesn't do everything for you, you spend all day looking after his child so he trusts you when it suits him. He just wants you to feel helpless and beaten down. Do his parents say anything when this is all happening? Do you have any friends or family you can talk to? Be honest your GP. She may be able to refer you on. You may also want to speak to your HV.

Blackcat86, last night when he was shouting he was calling me names in front and to them about me and when he came back in was saying I need to sit down with him and his mum now as this has gone above us. I just shut down and he kept saying he's at his limit and does all he can do and what's wrong with me. I kept saying I'm sorry I don't know it's the depression and I don't feel close anymore. It's a blur to be honest I shut myself in the bathroom in the end as don't like the shouting.

And now he's at work the aniexty is getting to me. He will ignore my msgs and be passive aggressive when he gets back and I struggle with that the most. Not knowing when it will all be okay again. We can patch things up and sometimes the next day he'll decide he's still annoyed at me and it'll keep going.

I need to sit down with him and his mum now as this has gone above us
You aren't a child and nothing has gone above you.
He's being very abusive OP.
Who are your friends and family? Even if you haven't been in touch for ages, there will be people who want you to be ok. Part of the abuse is to make you feel like you have noone. But there will be people there who will help. Can you go out and meet someone and tell them what's going on?

I think your suicidal feelings are your subconscious trying everything it can to get you out of this situation. I bet they go when you leave.

OP. It's him not you.

I had awful ante-natal depression, as well as depression at other times. This has been pretty tough on my DH, as it tends to turn into me resenting him and being angry at him.

Not once has he shouted at me or called me names because I’m depressed. He does find it incredibly hard, and we do struggle sometimes, but me being a total PITA does not turn him into an abuser, because he is not abusive.

It’s not your fault.

OP, you can't see through the fog he has created, can you.

He is abusive, there is no doubt. He is grinding you down, ruining your mental health and will in time do the same to your child.

Please call Women's Aid. They can help you move out to a refuge, apply for housing, and claim benefits. Your options are not as limited as you think.

You need to do this. It's a matter of survival.

Jesus.fucking.christ-sweetheart you are not to blame for post partum depression-you have a chemical imbalance of hormones-you can not control that! You are not being difficult or crazy you have an illness! (I'm a registered nurse) Your husband is a verbally,emotionally abusive son of a bitch enabled by his fucking mommy and daddy! I cannot imagine talking to my partner and mother of my baby like that. You need to get the fuck out of there! Contact Women's aid and then seek legal advice. I grew up in a home with domestic abuse and myself and all three of my siblings struggled with that background and you do not want to bring your baby up in that environment!

So his parents mother didn't give him a metaphorical slap ask him what the fuck he thinks he's doing? They are complicit in your abuse and you need to get away from house. The problem is you'll be second guessing yourself all the time that you're there despite how awful you're being treated. If his parents don't like the shouting, then it doesn't 'go above you', they should tell their son to pack it in

If a man calls you a cunt, you leave him, surely that’s common sense

Even if you are needy and emotional right now, a decent man would build you up, not belittle you and call you names. You are worth so much more than this. I predict once you are away from this situation your mental health will improve massively, living with abuse is so hard.