Friend said you can imagine me being married, but not dating

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I did ask for honesty and tbh I know exactly what she means- I'm a Reception teacher who likes baking. I never go beyond three drinks and I go to church on a Sunday. But that's who I am.

I've never had a relationship at all and I really want to be a mum one day, and to have a family.

How do I move on from that? Please don't suggest hillwalking, running or the gym- I just don't enjoy those things and I don't want to do things I don't enjoy.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with anything you’ve mentioned about yourself?! Any nice men at church? Are you involved with anything beyond the service there, like a life group or service/welcome team?

are You asking how to meet someone without doing what you don’t enjoy?

Do you do anything where you would meet like minded people? I don't know what your friend means- you exist and you like what you like....and it doesn't sound like an unusual existence. You just need to find someone like you. Who also exists. It isn't easy for anyone to meet the right kind of person but you can definitely up your odds by making sure you are accessible, as it were, to the kind of person you would want to date.
Have you tried online? That way you can say what you like, and you'll attract someone like minded.

I had a few dates with a man I met at church, but he was (yes I know this sounds stupid) really really religious. It's mostly families and women.

I don't really know what I'm asking. I just don't seem the sort of person who can meet someone

Online dating freaks me out. I have no idea where to begin (woeful lack of self confidence doesn't help).

Like anything you begin at the beginning and the first date is hard but then it gets easier and you get the hang of it. You build your confidence slowly.

You might try Christian websites?

I would try to go to events with like minded people.

There’s an online meet-up site which caters for different hobbies. So cooking, a youth charity or whatever you want to try.

Also let those that you trust known that you are interested in meeting someone without doing a blind dating. You never know. They might have a dinner party and they invite someone.

how old r u?

How old are you? Would you be interested in doing more church/community things? Bell ringing? You've already had a couple of dates, so that's clearly one possibility even if you and that guy were not meant to be.

I think looking up clubs, classes and volunteering opportunities in your area to see if there's anything you might enjoy would be a good start.

Don't try and force yourself into anything you feel too uncomfortable with - that's never going to be a good start to a relationship.

There are Christian dating sites which might suit.

You’ve got to meet people and staying at home baking won’t help you with that. Christian online dating might put you in touch with other really religious men or it might work out well, but you should give it s try. And do join other interest groups - ones that interest you obviously!

You don’t have to like running and hillwalking you could join a baking or other cooking classes and subjects relevant to your interests.

A lot of on line dating website aimed at specific religions. Also, a lot of other will be able to match you with someone of similar interests

you have good traits for family life and would be a great wife, my husband moans i want to be out all the time and don't cook enough. you just need to find someone who is looking for family life. maybe target someone a few years older than you?

If you want to be proactive then you probably will have to bite the bullet and try dating sites or dating agencies might suit you better, where the agent will vet them for you first

Sign up to a free online dating app and see what happens. There is one called Bumble that only women can message first so you can sign up, look through the profiles and if nobody takes your fancy or you think everyone looks awful then you can just delete your account. You won't get any unsolicited messages.

One guy on Bumble I met was lovely but he wasn't for me as he was a bit of a homebody and went to church. He might be your perfect match