DH drifting into depression again.

[clumsymum]

this will be the third time in the 15 years we've been together. This time I can see the signs, I hear familiar phrases in the arguments we've had over the last two weeks, his libido is gone, I know where this is going.

I've made a Dr's appt for him for next Friday eve (he works 130 miles away from here Mon - Fri).

Any ideas how to talk him into going to that appt? Last time I had to threaten to leave him, but he'd gone further downhill before I realised what was happening. Trouble is he's already losing that ability to be rational (which is part of his depression symptoms of course).

I could really do without this. He's only here at weekends, and the last two have been pretty dire. He has been pretty horrid to ds this weekend too (and I CAN'T stand for that).

Have you told him the content of the second sentence of your post? I guess you can't necessarily talk him into it, you can only try. It is a cliche but only he can help himself in the long run. Have you got support?

clumsymum.

You need support for your own self too. Have you ever heard of Depression Alliance, they may be able to help you by providing support along with your DH.

Their website is:-

www.depressionalliance.org

No, I haven't told him about the appointment yet. I mentioned last week that I felt he was on the downward spiral, and he just said " Oh, I don't say what you want me to say, I MUST be getting depressed" with a sneer (which isn't the normal him)

It's horrendously difficult to get appointments at the right time, I logged on and booked this first thing this morning, on the basis that if I can't get him to go, I'll cancel it on Fri morning.

I'll try the depression alliance website, thanks. Seeing as I'm trying to buck up my mum as well, after her knee replacement, 'm getting it from both sides.

Funny, my dad used to get depression. I would never have chosen to live with it again, if I'd known dh was going to suffer.