No contact for 5 months then....what does this text message mean?

[Welshcakes0]

I was with him for 8 months. It ended as I found him chatting on his WhatsApp to another woman. His response was 'he gets lonely and things haven't been great with us'. Anyway as from that day onwards I cut all contact, it was over. I have to admit I found it so so difficult to get over and right up until today have thought about him every day, but its getting less. Time is a healer! Part of me wanted him to text or acknowledge he had done something that had hurt me and apologise but he never did. I accepted that and slowly but surely moved on. This morning I get a message saying ' Facebook took me through some memories and there are some lovely pics of us on there, anyway hope you are ok and Happy Christmas '
It's completely knocked me and I feel like it's all come back, the feelings of missing him, the hurt, everything :(

Awww Welshcakes, I know exactly how you feel. My 5 year relationship ended at Xmas last year and it has taken me all this time to get over him...like you I think about him daily.

Anyway, on my birthday at the end of Sept he sends me a message wishing me happy birthday & hopes I'm well! It made me cry....on my f**king birthday! I to have over analysed why he sent it. He's just an asshole. I never responded.

No real words of advice apart from don't contact him again and keep moving forward.

You ended this relationship for a reason and a very valid reason at that.

It was a reason that in the 5 months that have past he hasn't been in contact and apologied what so ever but has the audacity to pop up as though you are long lost friends. He hurt that friendship 5 months ago but know thinks he can forget it all and say hi without even acknowledging it.

He's still the same man who you found 5 months ago texting other women - he hasn't changed. Remember why you dumped him in the first place, this hasn't changed whether you miss him or not.

Block and delete his osrry arse.

Ginbaby Oh that must have been awful for you. You did well in not replying. Did you want to? I wish I hadn't replied but just responded friendly but reading theses posts make me think, he doesn't even deserve a friendly response.
myfatarse - you are right. I guess this is what makes it feel worse. He is still being an arse and not giving a shit about anyone but himself.

At 8 months it should still be all exciting - so if he was already chatting to other women at that point then god knows what he’d do once the honeymoon period worn off

He’s a chancer. He fancies a shag and is trying his luck. Don’t give him any more time of your day!

I found him chatting on his WhatsApp to another woman. His response was 'he gets lonely and things haven't been great with us

I agree with everyone, you are the 'another' woman now OP.

IGNORE

He hasn't text again. So nothing to ignore. I understand what everyone is saying here but it was random. I replied. He hasn't followed it up with anything else. So what does that mean? It's like he has just wanted to twist the knife in a little more, so to speak.

Ignore it. It's one of the oldest tricks in the creep's book. Flick through old memories and see if you can manipulate a woman into falling for a bit of sentimentality.
Just block the message and think about ways to meet a man who treats you with respect.

This sums it up. It’s a thing

www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/relationships/ex-boyfriends-offering-bad-sex-for-christmas-20181208180347

You are crediting him with too much thought. He’s just looking for a shag .

There’s no follow up yet because he’s working on the women who gave him a more enthusiastic reply. He will get round to you when he’s worked his way through them.

You need to block him, it isn’t healthy to be focussed on him like this. He’s not worth it.

Oh no! Just read it! Some men, jeeze! Makes sense, when you really can't believe someone can be this thoughtless!
I know it's not healthy. Ok, I'm going to delete and start a fresh (again). So mad he has done this, so mad!

yeah, its fishing.

Fairytale calls it.

They are random men, with random minds, with random thoughts, and random actions. Kind of like the dishwater of humanity. Best ignored and forgotten.

I deleted. 2 days later I had a another text message saying 'I like your profile pic'
I know nobody here will approve but I acknowledged it with 'thanks'. I don't effin know why! Yes, I'm stupid. Please don't be mean, I'm really struggling here. Then he disappeared again. What the fudge is he doing? Clearly he isn't even wanting what alot of people on here thought he wanted. What is he actually doing? I have deleted again. Sat here today like a saddo waiting to hear from this absolute tosser!!!!!

I'm afraid he is still after a shag. He's just got a lot of patience. Probably because he's trying this game with a lot of other women. Sorry OP. Delete block and stop engaging if you don't want this head fuck

He just wants to keep you on the hook, is all.
Because he can.

He checked in again to see if you'd respond. You did. he is content that if he wanted you he can get you.

How can people be so vile?!!

Us or him?

category12 not anyone here at all. Oh gosh of course not. You are all so helpful. I meant him. How can he be so selfish still, after all he has done already. I wish I had told him so now.

You’re clearly still after attention from him. He’s just seeing if you’ll bite and you have , twice ! You may as well just get on with it OP, as you haven’t taken on board any advice from here. Good luck with that one

Please value yourself more than this.
Next time he contacts you just post go away, then block.
You have to see what everyone is saying here is true, when a man calls a while after he is found out, it is because he knows in the pass he has talked you round, he thinks he can draw you in again.
He would cheat with you as the OW, if he could, and you would give hurt such as you felt... Sorry but be strong and walk away.

Block him love. You are now 'someone he's chatting to on WhatsApp' too.

He's bored and lonely.

Done become one of his little 'pool' of women he uses for attention when he's lacking.

I have deleted so can't block unless he messages again. I know I need to. I will. It's such a horrible feeling. It's bringing all those feelings back, even worse as he is being so mean still. I was doing so well.
I will block next time, I will. I feel awful today.

Sorry OP but he's having a good old chuckle to himself here. He knows he can get you if he wants you now. He will keep throwing you some crumbs every now and again. He probably gets off on it. Stop allowing him to do this and BLOCK him and stop making excuses not to.
Otherwise you will continue to be a doormat.

You can block someone without waiting for a message. Just block him, if that’s what you want.