Anyone close to their parents, but not their siblings?

[OrangeQuarter]

I have posted before, but not under this name.
I am very close to both of my parents. My DM and I have a lot in common. DF and I don't have too much in common, but our personalities are similar.
However, I am not as close to my sibling as I would like to be. This is nothing either of us did, it is just that we have nothing in common at all.
I wanted to ask if anyone has had experience with being close to your parents and not your sibling, and how you have felt about it? I have only been in one relationship (very toxic, wasted way too much time on him), no DC and terrified of being alone when they die, which sounds morbid I know.
Thanks.

Sorry, "they" meaning my parents.

I am/was very close to my parents but have little to do with my siblings, birthday & christmas cards, family gatherings only.

Sadly, the months around my mothers death was the most I had spoken with one of them for years, not much more contact with the other.

It has taken me many years to accept that the only thing we have in common is our parents and accept that we just don't want to be close. Luckily, I have good friends around me and a DP who I love really (LOL).

What I will say is make the very most of your parents, I miss my Mum every day, but don't dwell on them not being with you in the future. Your relationship with your parents is special, not everyone has that, enjoy it. It is likely that you will find a new partner that, if you remember to see the signs and not repeat past behaviours, will be fulfilling in its own right.

I'm the same, I have a few siblings and I'm not close to any of them at all. I am very close to my mum and dad and love them very very much. I was close to my younger brother until he did some things that I do not agree with and it's distanced him from us all really. But that's life sadly. We are lucky to have a good relationship with our parents - many don't. I too am aware of not really having many friends etc (I have a fiance but that's about it) and as my parents approach old age I'm worried about them dying too.

I am nearly 62 years old and was fortunate enough to still have my Mum in my life until she died, aged 94, in February of this year. My Dad died in 2002 and I was very close to them both, even though I lived a 7 hour drive from them.

I have just the one brother who is 4 years older than I am. He never lived more than a 10 minute drive from our parents for all of his adult life. He and I were never close, because of his envy of me. He tried to convince my ex-wife to throw me out when we had problems; he did this after hearing only her untrue side of the story. That was the seed of the breakdown of our relationship, and the manner in which he treated me at our Mum's funeral was the thing that put the tin lid on it.

Sadly, I have had to acknowledge that I will never have a relationship with my brother and have realised that, despite sharing parents and DNA, we had nothing in common. It was our Mum's wish that we would stay in contact after her passing, but even though I tried to extend the hand of friendship it has not happened.

My advice to you would be to not seek to be close to siblings on the grounds that you share parents; if you have things in common, then by all means make the most of your relationship with them, but otherwise make strong relationships with friends. They are the ones who supported me when Mum died, just as I supported them in their time of need.

Best wishes.

Thank you so much for your responses. So glad to know I'm not alone in this and that you have been able to get through it.

It's weird how siblings can be raised in the same house by the same people but just so different. Im closer to one sibling than another. All 3 of us are different and at different stages of our lives. My OH however is much closer to his siblings. It's just life, you can't get along with everyone, even relatives.

I'm one of three who are not close. We were brought together by my mum for occasions when she was alive and these days we communicate a fair bit because of dad who has dementia but I suspect when he's gone it'll be Christmas and birthday Cards and not a lot more.
I do find it upsetting at times, my dh is v close to his brother and many friends are too so I feel like I'm the weird one.

I really appreciate all the responses, and I'm sorry for these of you who are having a difficult time with it. I know that most likely, our parents all want/wanted us to be happy and not to rely on them for companionship.
Agree with these who said it's interesting when siblings are raised in the same household, things can still be different. I'm the eldest and was always told that a new sibling is first a playmate and then a friend for life. I know that things might change, though.
I'm lucky in that I have some older cousins that I am closer to, but they are siblings to one another and sometimes I would look at their bond and wish I had that.
Thanks again.

I have 3 siblings, get on great with 2, but the oldest has nothing to do with the other 3 of us, it is his choice, we always welcome him but he never does want to get involved, like you I have a cousin I'm particularly close to. .closer than to my oldest brother.

I'm close with my mum, (single parent to me and older sibling, haven't had contact with dad since I was about 5) and have a very difficult relationship with older sibling. We clash regularly and therefore have little to do with one another. We have a younger half sibling who is of primary school age (same mum) and I have a very close relationship with half-sibling.