How to deal with a pre-christmas break up

[mumky2013]

Partner wants to break up now. But wants to spend christmas as a family and then go our separate ways. I should point out that i am heartbroken at the idea of us breaking up. What do I do?!

If there are no children involved, hes loopy
If there are children involved, it depends on if you can get along without an atmosphere

I'd tell him to fuck off, personally.
Then return his gifts and spend the money on lots of Christmas treats for myself.

Tell him to fuck off now. If you have DC negotiate when he can have them over Christmas.

Finish it now.

We have a DS(4) and a DS on the way. I can get along but because my feelings are still so strong, it will be painful.

Tell him... No..
And every Xmas or holiday he could be the one who never sees his children...

Nice timing eh? When you are at your most vulnerable. Gather friends and family for support and get his arse out the door. I'd be livid and not want him round playing happy families at Christmas.

Shocking. Why didn't he just wait until after Christmas to tell you? It needs to end now. Your Christmas will be no more bearable if he is there as you know what is coming.

No. It is not fair on you or DC as it will not be a happy time.

Also while pregnant you should take as much care of yourself as possible and not put up with this when there is no need to.

Plus the sooner he leaves the sooner you can mourn and then start to heal.

Shitty timing but start as you mean to go on.

I split with my ex 3 months ago. He's on dating sites shagging around. Told my kids (23/ 14) we'd still do the going to the Grandparents for dinner. I'm heart broken but trying to shield the kids from any more fall out .............any advice?

newbeginning18
That sounds horrible. Thing is, i can see that happening here too. Hes very much of the mindset that he wants to meet the love of his life and the woman he is going to marry. So im pretty much the babysitter to him right now i think. You can come have dinner with us if you like? :) We can all be uncomfortable together.

So I'm going to go home from work tonight and sit down with my DS and watch Frozen. The dishes, the washing, the polishing can all wait. I need some love tonight and he gives the greatest hugs in the world.

Ive been wanting to declutter my life for a while. Perhaps this is the perfect place to start.

Thank you all for your support.

I wouldn't have a sham Christmas with him, no. You're finished. Keep the relationship polite and businesslike. No need to play happy families.

DC will be ok, he's young enough to adapt.

Take care of yourself, good luck with the birth.

I tried to keep it together over xmas for sake of parents when exh said he met someone else and marriage was ending and frankly i wouldnt recommend it - it was a horrible awful strain.
I’d get him to leave - dont make it easy for him- have day with your DS perhaps do something different and arrange for him to spend time with DS while you rest.

Oh op. I can't imagine how you must be feeling.
If it was me I would say no. He's told you that he wants to break up. He can't then expect you to play happy families at Christmas. Others may say that another woman might pop up in the next few weeks. Sending these