Grieving the end of my marriage

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Hurts like hell doesn’t it.

It won't hurt forever. I know that's probably not helpful to say at this time. Time heals everything.

Grieving is exactly it. It's a loss, I ended my first marriage and still went through the grieving process. It does get easier especially if you can try to let go of the what ifs etc x

Yes it is a grief and you will have awful days where you feel you will never get over it and then plain old bad days. Then, better days and more better days and so its a cliche but time is a great healer. Exercise, counselling and wonderful friends helped me. Be kind to yourself, treat yourself, do things you couldnt before. Years on i now realise it was a good thing to happen to me, it steered me in a direction i was not expecting (and didnt want) but life is sooo much better now. Best wishes

I love(d) him so much
I thought it was forever till death do us part
I loved him
He loves her now he has gone

It hurts worse knowing the other person isn't grieving, doesn't it?

I had that. Did she feel upset that it had happened? Yes. Did she feel guilty I felt grief? Absolutely. But did she grieve what she had chosen to break up? I don't think so. She hides a lot from me, but there's enough I've been able to glean or that's been passed back by others. She doesn't appear happy, despite now being with the guy she was desperate to be free to date. I know she finds the whole situation horrendous.

But grieve what we lost? No. There's never been an attempt to reconcile or acknowledge what we lost. In fairness, she's ever been the sentimental sort. She's always lived in the moment. Maybe one day she will.

*never been the sentimental sort