Ok here goes .. male here - I've been separated from my ex for nearly two years now and we share custody of our three year old. We broke up because of my attitude and my problems. I've done a lot of shitty things - a lot. Nothing I could go to prison for and no domestic violence or physical abuse - I just haven't been a pleasant person to be around at all.I see a lot of posts on here about women being in mentally abusive relationships but I was the abuser. I guess I wasn't ready for children and I took it out on her and lost my temper and said and did things I shouldn't have. We still met up regularly - often twice in the week and always on weekends but that's stopped recently because of my mood swings. I've since had professional help for my mental state and I'm on medication - I had a lot of issues but I'm ironing them out and now coming to the realisation of just how bad I've been. Were civil now but I get the impression she has this attitude because she doesn't want to upset me further. I know there's no hope for us reconciling but all I want to know is how do you deal with the guilt , the shame and the regret going forward ? I feel like in the future I'd want to enter a new relationship now I'm becoming more stable but I can't move on with these thoughts in my head. Has anyone been in the same situation and how did you overcome these feelings? TIA