Help with disrespectful partner

[mumky2013]

Im 7 months pregnant with DS2, its nearly Christmas. I've just had to buy my own Christmas present cos my partner of 7 years didn't know what to get me. And he seems to be putting a lot of effort into finding a secret Santa present for his 22 year old skinny blonde colleague that he has openly fantasized about sleeping with, during one of our sessions. His background on his phone is a famous person who is blonde and skinny, he fantasizes over other women. And now he has told me he doesn't want to raise another child with me because I am too emotional and messy (which i know). Do i just give up on us? or fight (again). I just feel so worthless.

How you look and feel has nothing to do with how another person treats you and you don't deserve to be treated badly even if you were a size 100! It's abuse, plain and simple and you should not be tolerating, you are also exposing a 4 year old to learning that men treat women like shit.

This man is no way a good man, not even close, he's a nasty bully who happily disrespects you in every way possible, if you are not going to look after you, then who is?

Thank you all. Last night, I thought we were getting somewhere. We sat down in the lounge together and watched TV, laughing and joking. And then this morning, he dropped me off at work, and i sent him a message. He replied with a nasty message about me cleaning for ages last night after work but the house still looks a mess. Nobody else tidies for this long with no changes and that i should move on and make excuses for the next idiot. Last night, i got home from work at 6pm, cleaned the oven, cooked tea, washed sheets and clothes (4 wash loads) bleached the kitchen sides, loaded the dishwasher (twice), tidied round the lounge, put all the clean washing away, got my DS ready for bed and read him a goodnight story and eventually sat down at 10pm to relax. I literally dont know how much more he expects me to do. Im 7 months pregnant and exhausted!

Are you actually reading the replies OP, you are running yourself ragged for a creep that only criticises and blames you; why do you think so little of yourself?

I am reading them yes. Ive spend my entire life, 27 years, with separated parents. One who cared more about her boyfriends than me, and the other who just wanted to keep his new wife and her kids happy. Then went on to being used as the new wifes punch bag. Then moved out and moved in with a guy who used me as a punch bag, Then finally got the balls to leave him, and met my DSs dad. He treated me so much better than anyone else ever has. And went through so much with me. Family losses, cancer, normal relationship issues, his own illnesses, our DSs illness. And now weve got to this. There has been so much bad in my life and he has brought the only good. And i do love him. Regardless as to the bad stuff. And i cant stop that. Im finding it so hard.

I think you believe him good only because your past was so bad; he's not good at all, your issue is you actually believe you are not good enough for him, a man that belittles you and opening tells you he fantasises about other women.

All i can suggest is personal counselling to try and find your worth and value; until then he will continue to abuse you and probably will end up leaving anyway.

Love is not enough when the other person treats you with utter contempt.