That time of year... and the divorced Christmas

[Greentwiglet]

This will be our third "divorced" Christmas and I'm still not used to it. Despite being livid with my exDH (he wanted the divorce), I find myself missing him dearly at this time of year.

Will anyone else admit to missing an ex at this time of year? Or is it just me? ;(

Me and my ex partner broke up in June, our fiest child together was 8 months old at the time.
He was seeing a number of women behind my back, whilst I was pregnant also. I felt so hurt at the time but handled it the best I could and have fought to keep myself a float for myself and my daughter. It's our first Xmas apart for 4 years and our first Xmas apart as a family.
Now the question, do I miss him? Nope, do I miss the whole family thing? Nope, ok do I feel sad I don't have my little family together at Christmas? Yes. I think of myself as a strong woman, I'm 28 years old, moving out of my current house (which I rent off his father who is vile to me) 4 days before Xmas day, I'll spend Xmas evening alone as daughter will be at her Dads. I'm happier now than I've been for 4 years. It's not much advice to give you but will hopefully bump your post but what I'm saying is it's not an ideal situation and I miss what could have been for our little family but it isn't anymore and it's just me and my daughter, our two man gang. We will have the best Xmas together. Everything happens for a reason, things falls apart so better things can fall together. Be positive and think to yourself, you know what I'm going to have a good Xmas without him. Be a bad ass woman who doesn't need no man. No matter how much it hurts, brush yourself off and carry on.

Hey this post helped me thanks

I find Xmas really hard, I wouldn't want my ex back ever but I really do grieve for the loss of the family unit and feel sad my son gets bounced between us. I am trying to be grateful for what I do have rather than focus on the negatives but generally finding it hard to get excited about any of it.

Split with husband 2 months ago, he left me, said he wasn't happy.
Despite that I miss him terribly but more than that I miss the family unit, the company, family days out etc.
Miss him but hate him at the same time

This will be my first Christmas separated (we spilt on 27th December last year when I discovered his affair). I usually love this time of year and I am trying for my children’s sake but it would also be our anniversary next week so it’s tough.
I am lucky though that I have great family and friends so there will be people in much worse positions than me and I keep trying to remember that.