"You need support with a baby"

[cheeseinthebutterdish]

I know I'm being sensitive but it's really rankling at the moment.

My marriage is just beyond awful: criticism and criticism and criticism. I do everything wrong, truth is we don't seem to like each other much. We have two young children. Neither are at school yet.

If I leave, I don't even know where to start. I don't have any family of my own. My mum is dead; I am NC with my dad - haven't seen him for years and don't want to, he really is a twat of the first order.

I work FT and on paper don't earn a bad salary but it's relentless and I have shit credit so not sure I can even rent somewhere.

Am I fooling myself? if I leave ... I feel like Ill end uo losing my children.

plenty of single mums with no help. I have 4 and no help. your husband will still see them??

The above comment was actually something my HV said ages ago but anyway. I don't know, havent even got that far. He'd probably end up with full custody yes

you can build a support network is probably what she meant. what about friends?

None.

Why do you think he’d be the main carer (custody isn’t a thing anymore)? Is he a SAHD?

Well, if I've nowhere to live he'd have to be I suppose

Why wouldn’t you have anywhere to live? Why wouldn’t he move out?

Well ideally you would have support with young children but life doesnt always work that way. maybe go to some baby/toddler groups and try to make friends?

I couldn't afford the mortgage alone.

I can't go to b & t groups, I work FT.

If you want to leave I’d get legal advice on what’s likely. None of what you’ve said is a given.

Are you married? Makes a massive difference.

Financially I mean