About a year ago I met a guy and I was completely honest with him. I was a mess, not really ready for a relationship but appreciated friendship
I got in a state and he'd texted me offering me a hand clearing out my place - I agreed to the help when DS was at school and let him in my home
I was very tearful that day and he was kind and just did a lot of it himself but then he tried to kiss me. I did kiss him back initially then pushed him away and said it was all too much and he left
He has kept in contact here and there and I have kept him at arms length since
Now... I am lonely and I would like someone and feel more open to getting to know him. He has no illusions, nothing to disappoint him with really
But... I felt really ick that he tried kissing me when I was at such a low point, like maybe he was taking advantage of me?
Was he just being a red blooded male? And potentially still a nice guy? Or was I completely spot on to keep him at arms length?
I have had literally one relationship where the man has behaved like a gentleman not long after leaving abusive husband and he soon ended things realising I was not in a good place for a relationship and traumatised... I guess I would like to replace that really... an actual gentleman who cared about me more than getting a leg over and won't take advantage
Is this guy a big red flag waver or just a guy who misread the situation?