Emotional reaction directly after orgasm

[Renarde1975]

Really wasn't sure where to put this one MN, sex or here. But as it's to do with emotions rather than mechanics, I thought here.

So yes. About 20 or so years ago, I discovered a very odd thing indeed. Sometimes, rarely but not always, directly after good sex and a enjoyable orgasm, I burst into tears.

Now to hasten to add, this is NOT because my partner has been mean, cruel or hurtful. Far from it and when it does happen, I can see the shock on their faces.

The crying starts very suddenly and then a rush of pain, sadness, despair, grief runs straight through me. I will sob for maybe 30s to a minute as if my heart is breaking. It feels like it's breaking but there is nothing to attribute it too! It's not my 'stuff'. Then as quick as it starts, it's over. No more emotion and I am utterly back to normal. In the crying phase I dont like to be touched or reassured although am getting better with that.

Not had it for years and then, it's come back. Presenting more often and then something else has started to happen. Occasionally, I feel utter euphoria. I will laugh. It's joy.

Has anyone else experienced this or heard of it. I'm now asking male friends and one very experienced in the ways of shenanigans said no. One more said he had heard of it.

I cannot be the only person who experienced this. Please tell me MN, I'm not even madder than I thought I was?

Yep, I've been known to do this, too (crying). I guess it's a build up of emotions .

There's a name for it. I'm sure someone will come along & tell you what it is.

No, you're not going mad lol.

I occasionally experience this too, think it’s normal...The rush of oxytocin released during an orgasm can be overwhelming. I tend not to see it as a negative thing but helpful way to release pent up tension. As you say, can be a little awkward depending on how comfortable you are with your partner though.

I've had a man cry after sex. I think it must have been the same thing.

I had a girlfriend that used to do this. The first time it totally freaked me out that maybe she regretted us sleeping together or that I'd done something wrong but she assured me it was just her and she couldn't control it. After that we used to laugh about it because she really couldn't help herself and we'd end up in post-coital fits of laughter with her crying her eyes out at the same time. The upside (or downside depending on perspective) was that she couldn't fake it so I always knew when it was ok to let myself go.

So no it's not just you.

Yes, that's me too. Never knew why it happened - and it happens at random times so there isn't a pattern at all. It's called Post-Coital Tristesse which sounds very sweet !

Yes, it's a thing.

Oh yes, that is a thing, as Birdie said, post coital tristesse.

Not sure you want to know that it can crop up into your 50s... ask again in 10 years and I'll tell you if it sticks around into your 60s!

I experience these weird crying jags occasionally too, but only ever when the orgasm has been particularly intense. So always assumed that they have nothing to do with emotions as such, but maybe that the rush of neurochemicals/electrical activity goes a bit overboard sometimes and triggers the part of my brain associated with weeping. Admittedly, I've very little scientific knowledge on which to base this theory, but it does help me feel slightly less ridiculous when it happens.

Yes it is a thing and this happens to me, too. Rarely but it does happen. I think if there are emotions that need to be released then it's a good time when you are open emotionally and flooded with hormones. I just tend to go with it - but then I am single so I'm not freaking anyone out