Relationship ending and I’m pregnant!

[mumofone25]

I just need someone to talk to 😢. My relationship is basically over. Non stop arguments over the same thing resulting in him getting angry and braking things. I’ve had enough now but don’t know what to do. I have a child from a previous relationship and I am around 7 weeks pregnant. I have nothing, no money, no house, no car. He owns the house and the car. I have no family close by, all are around a 4 hour drive away. I just don’t know what to do or how I even go about ending it?

Sorry to hear things are so difficult .

Do you have any family nearby?

@NotTheFordType I unfortunately don’t have any family close by. They live a 4 hour drive away. We were in a long distance relationship for 3 years and a year ago we moved to his home town. I’m kicking myself now and wondering what on earth ive done!!

Do you want to go ahead with things? (Sorry to be blunt but just been through similar)

I would move back home now and consider if you wish to go ahead with the pregnancy without discussing it with him.

Are you in any danger from him? It sounds risky as he is breaking things?

I would love nothing more than to go ahead but I don’t know if can. My DD is so desperate to be a big sister and all I wanted was to be a happy family. @RandomMess that’s what I’m thinking I have to do. Just so unfair because we built our lives here, my DD loves her school and I’ve got a job that I enjoy. I don’t feel like I’m in any danger but he’s definitely got anger issues which have just surfaced in recent months.

If he has anger issues, be careful about leaving him.

Could you leave while he is at work? Keep your DD off school and move back home.

Would your family lend you the money for a train or bus fare? Could they put you up for a while?

Consider very carefully that continuing with the pregnancy will mean having this man in your life and your daughters life forever. If he is becoming violent then I would leave now.

At 7weeks you have choices.
And you need to think about your child - and what sort of life they’ll have if you go ahead and have another baby with what seems to be no financial resources what so ever. And no support from the biological father.

Sorry. It’s not a nice place to be

Only you can make this decision, but if it were me and given your extremely dire financial situation, I would not have a child by a violent man who will soon be your ex. You will then have to deal with him being in your life for years and years to come. It's a recipe for disaster for both you and your daughter.

I would move back to be near my family and terminate the pregnancy, personally, because he has 'anger issues'. Think I'd just pack what I could when he was out, take your DD and go back to family. Your DD is 7 and she'll adjust but I'd not want to be tied forever to a man who has 'anger issues' and who breaks things when angry, it's no example to your DD, that's not safe for her and her safety is more important than another baby.

Move back home. Can your DD go back to her old school/is there a local school with places where she can start in Jan? Carefully consider whether you want to have a DC with this man and be tied to him for the rest of you life (min. the next 18 years, but realistically its forever more if you have a DC together). Don't base your decision on your DD wanting to be a big sister, base on you and your life right now. What do you NEED to do?

OP not encouraging you to end your pregnancy, it’s your choice, but your DD will get over not being a big sister just yet, do you want to be tied to this man forever?

What only fools said.

Dont stay with him it won’t get better. But can you stay in your job and get a new home nearby without disturbing daughter school life and leaving your job?

I was 5 months pregnant when my partner left me and I thought I would never cope as a new mum....it proved to be totally opposite and despite father never bothering or supporting my boy with autism and now 14 he is the best thing in my life and can’t imagine a day without him.