Did I do something wrong here?

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I met a guy at an activity I go to. There is a big age difference; he's 22 and I'm 30 but he seemed mature so I gave it a go.

He asked me on the first six or so dates? Seemed really keen, always text, wanted to meet up, made plans for the future.

Out of the blue I heard from a mutual friend he was worried about where things were going as he didn't want anything serious. We had a chat and decided we would keep it casual. He continued to do all the chasing.

Back to normal for another few weeks when out of the blue he stopped communicating, became busy all the time. Heard again from a mutual friend that he wanted to end it but didn't want to upset me?

I called him out on it and he said that he was worried it was getting too serious and that's not what he wants. So we have ended things completely.

Tell me I did nothing wrong here please?! Was this just him blowing hot and cold?

His age isn't relevant. He's a grown-up. My ex and I were same ages when we met and tho split up now, were married for a decade.

It's not your fault. He does sound a little like he didn't quite know what he wanted, and was maybe a little commitment-phobic? Maybe he rushed in then scared himself a little. Sounds like he did like you and respect you though.

Honestly, did you actually think for one minute that a 22 year old was going to settle down with you?
Just sounds very predatory to me.
Too childish and immature? Yes, because he's 22! Haha

What a ridiculous comment.
Not all 22 yo are inapable of being mature and being in serious relationships.

I'm sorry. 22 is still v young. The human brain doesn't fully mature till around 24. and, to a 22yr old, 30 is ancient. Obviously, there are exceptions.

He said several times that he wasn't looking for anything long-term. He was enthusiastic at the beginning, because that's how 22 yr olds are. It's all go - until suddenly it isn't. He should have told you himself, but, again, it shows a lack of experience.

No, you didn't do anything wrong unless you were quietly hoping that it would turn into something serious. It just about might have done, but it really was a long shot. Whatever the circumstances, it's not nice to be dumped when you were enjoying the relationship. Just chalk it up to experience. 8 yrs don't matter when you're both in your 30s, but just think how much growing up you've done since you were 22.