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Suspicious - what to look out for

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justilou1 · 08/12/2018 06:00

I have a gut feeling he's seeing someone else. We've not had sex for months and we're basically like distant relatives now. I could be anyone, really. What signs should I be looking for, and for those who are more tech savvy (basically anyone aged ten and up) what should I look for when I nick his phone when he's asleep?
(I'm concerned about money missing, for a start....)

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LaLaLamp · 09/12/2018 09:20

My ex joined an ice hockey chat thing and would spend hours on it. He was a bit of an odd-ball for things like that so I never thought anything of it, anyway we used to have the computer connected to the telly via HDMI cable for when we were watching streamed films, so whatever was on the computer would come up on the big telly - I left the room for something mid programme once and came back in and the hockey chat thing was up on the screen - I wasn't looking to catch him out at that point either, but thought it odd to see a comment something about 'busty' and 'she's coming back now - gotta go' !! so for months, he had been using a seemingly innocent platform to speak to ow. Same could go for gaming on PSX or Xbox I guess, not that I know much about those.

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justilou1 · 09/12/2018 09:52

This is where I think I will find him out. He works in professional sport and I am clueless.

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another20 · 09/12/2018 10:00

Is the sport connected to any betting opportunities?

mummmy2017 · 09/12/2018 10:06

Check sent emails... People forget that one.
Also deleted ones..

Demented101 · 09/12/2018 10:15

There is some amiss alright. Don't forget to cover your tracks while you are investigating. Delete searches etc

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justilou1 · 09/12/2018 13:17

How long should I let him sleep before I try and get his phone?

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justilou1 · 09/12/2018 14:32

Nothing to be found on his phone - apart from a totally blank email account. That was odd. Nothing in and nothing out.

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justilou1 · 09/12/2018 14:32

Can’t get into his banking details though

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Demented101 · 09/12/2018 14:54

It is unusual to be totally blank. You would have to be very vigilant with deleting. Do you think passwords for banking have changed as in did you have access to them before?

Snowballs4ever · 09/12/2018 15:17

The blank email account could be used for messaging women and also online dating or hook up sites. He probably wants to keep it separate from his usual email

another20 · 09/12/2018 15:31

Do you know his email address for the blank email? You could try logging in to a few dating sites etc with this email - obvs will not know the password but if the site recognised the email address you would know he was registered.

BUT - if you don’t trust him - it’s over really and you can leave - you don’t need to find truth of anything. Financial abuse / irregularities is def happening - pass that on to the experts.

LaLaLamp · 23/12/2018 00:01

checking in to see how OP is

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