Photos of ex/children's father in their home

[unexpectednewstart]

I'm currently finding my feet after my marriage breakdown and am single Mum to a preschooler and baby. I've realised I need to start removing things like wedding photos from around the house in order to feel okay but I'm not sure what to do about photos of my children's father. He is not in a position to get his own place at the moment (so living with his parents) and is just taking the preschooler on days out so this is our children's only home. I don't want to erase him and his family from my children's lives but equally don't want to be surrounded by their photos. What would you do? Remove all the photos, put photos in the children's rooms, keep photos of them with their dad around the place? They are so young that they can't decide/do that for themselves.

Photos in their room. Seeing their father regularly is the main thing.

They are young enough to not notice photos going, if they see their father regular they won't need photos around at mummy's house.

My kids have a couple of 'happy family' photos in their bedroom. I don't normally keep old relationship memorabilia but I think this is important to them so have kept all the pics and they can choose what to do them later on x

Ps good luck. If you're on fb and if you're interested there's a fab and uplifting group for single parents at Christmas www.facebook.com/groups/786461428396532/

create an album that they can page through as wanted?

Mine are a bit older but they have photos in their rooms and we have albums- I just removed photos from sitting room etc.

I have one 'family' photo in the living room still. It doesn't bother me to have it there but my daughter likes it.

My children have photos of their dad in their rooms. Ex was very abusive and not only do I only put pictures of him in their rooms but I’ve removed them all from the photo albums and put them in a box for them to divvy up later on. My eldest knows the reason I’ve done this and is ok with it. My youngest doesn’t care. I certainly don’t feel bad. I doubt very much ex has pictures of me on display.

Give the photos to your ex. He put them up wherever he is living.

DS has a couple of photos of him and his dad in his room. There's a magnet on the fridge of the 2 of them as well but no other photos of my ex in the house. I wouldn't have them in the living room.

Thanks for your comments, I think I'll go with a photo in each of their rooms and then remove photos from anywhere else in the house. I agree that it should be his responsibility to put photos up in his own place but they're not going to be staying at his place any time soon.

@dragonflyflew
Thanks, that looks like a fab group but I think that might 'out' our split on Facebook if it comes up on my newsfeed. It's still quite new and not all family and friends know about our split yet.

I actually felt really guilty about moving out and my child unlikely to have a sibling... so in the living room I have a set of family photos. Me and her in the middle surrounded by a photo of her with her dad, grandparents, cousins etc. It was important to me to help her feel still part of a larger family and secure.

At the end of the day your ex is still going to be part of your family - related to you - though your child.

Obviously it's completely different if it was an abusive relationship.