Sex dying down. Normal?

[Nj1208]

I have been with my female partner for a year and a half and we have just moved in together.

To give a bit of background information, I was married to a man for 6 years, together 11 and met this woman 6 weeks after breaking up from a decent yet dead marriage which should have ended years ago.

The connection with this woman was instant; crazy, electric and something neither of us had ever felt before. We would literally stare into each other’s eyes and be ripping each other’s clothes off at every minute.

We have spent the past year and a half in constant contact, we are inseperable and she is a great step- parent to my daughter.

She has never been in such a long relationship, she talks of marrying me, she says I am the one and had never wanted to live with anyone before.

Yet the sex isn’t as frequent as it was at the start. My partner says this is the best sex she’s ever had, and it is still amazing. Yet not as often. I guess I am missing the excitement of the beginning, I loved the feeling of being so desirable to her, it was like a high.

She says she fancies me more now (I’ve lost a lot of weight) than in the beginning, yet I felt better about myself when she couldn’t keep her hands off me and it was all crazy excitement in the early days

Yes, completely normal.

There's something called 'lesbian bed death' (sorry if this has already been mentioned) but I don't really think it's exclusive to lesbians. It's the same in most relationships.

Speaking from experience, the connection between two woman can be on another level and I have spoken to so many women who agree, so when that initial humping every 10 minutes starts to die down 😂 it's just a bit more noticeable and perhaps a bit scarier, because it was so intense in the beginning.

Honestly OP, don't panic. If the desire is still there and the sex is still good when you do get together, then It's fine imo. Just the natural progression of the vast majority of relationships, I suspect.

My DP and I used to have sex any time, anywhere when we first got together and whereas I love and fancy her the same, if not more now, I'd say once a week is fairly standard for us now. Sometimes more, sometimes less, but the more you panic about it, the more of an issue it becomes and it really doesn't need to be one. Not under these circumstances.

Now you’ve been together a while perhaps you’re finding out you have a higher sex drive than your partner & so would like intimacy more often than they do. Or perhaps your self esteem seems to be boosted by how many times you have a sexual encounter or made to feel attractive by them. I’m sure your partner is still equally attracted to you but once you begin living together real life gets in the way & sexual encounters can indeed dwindle down on top of work etc. Sex is an important part of a relationship but not all & you need to work on doing other activities together that bring you reward & pleasure outside of the bedroom. You almost sound addicted to the first rush of heady sex you encountered when you first met, but you need to be realistic & get things into perspective as your relationship moves forward & goal posts change.