Hi, just wondering if there are any other parents on here who are living/about to be living in a LAT relationship (Living Apart Together). Me and my husband are about to live separately after living together for the last 20years and raising 3 kids - two teenagers and a 9 year old.. We will be five minutes away from each other and both within walking distance of our youngest's school. We are both looking forward to this as a new adventure together - it is a positive mood and not the first step to divorce. We bot feel we have lost something of ourselves in becoming so emeshed and are craving our own space and independence. We plan to have date nights at each other's houses each week and the kids will split their time between us but in an informal way as unlike a divorce scenario as we will still be together and bot spending time in each other's houses. It will be expensive but we are hoping it will be life changing. Does anyone else here have experience of doing marriage this way? In particular how their kids adjusted to it. Ours are feeling a bit unsettled by it understandably - mostly because they have no role models for other parents who have lived this way. Everyone they know who have parents who don't live together it is because they have split up. I'm going to talk to my daughters teacher about it next week and explain what is happening - that LAT is actually a thing and not a bad thing either. I've had mixed reactions telling people about this. Men have mostly been a bit horrified and assumed it is the first step to divorce - the women have thought it was a bloody brilliant idea!!
I could do with some role models myself to be honest. Any one our there??