Honest opinions because i dont feel like ive done anything wrong but im not really sure.
Friend is very upset with me, has been off with me for a couple of days.
Friend is saying i ignore her texts so obviously dont care etc.
But the thing is, i dont always reply to texts, its just how i am. Texts were great and fun when i was 21 but i dont sit for ages texting away now. I never thought anything of it because i speak to her on the phone every night anyway.
Im at work full time now and i sit in reception, we have customers, suppliers, regional managers, directors and all sorts of people in from head office on an almost daily basis plus the boss always walking past. I cant be seen too often with a phone in my hand! Plus (and this sounds like a feeble excuse but) i have recently had a new mobile, one of those touch screen things and it is so easy to call someone by accident, or delete what you are writing that it takes me an age to send a text. friend works for herself so she can more or less do what she wants.
the other thing i wondered about really is with my other friends, we often dont reply to texts unless its a direct question. Like K may send me a text telling me she is at the fair with the kids and having a great time etc..i read it, smile and think that we will talk about it later by telephone call, i do the same to her and she doesnt reply. it never entered my head that this might be upsetting someone.
ive tried to explain, ive said i just didnt realise how it was upsetting her, she knows about work and why im keen to not put a foot wrong there. she said the fact she sent so many texts this particular day should have alerted me to the fact she was unhappy and that just a couple of words from me would have made a difference, but that has happened before and then she was hurt that my message was not long enough!
have i been terribly ignorant and unfair?