Long-time lurker here, I’ve just never had the guts to post about my situation I guess…I just feel like I’ve reached breaking point and last night I ended up crying myself to sleep. DH is just so lazy, I don’t know if he’s always been like this or if I’m just noticing it more.
So, been married for 5 years and have one child aged 2. I work part-time, 25 hours per week. DH works and pays the majority of the bills, food shopping etc. as he earns much more. However, although he works, he works a lot less than I do. Approximately 6 hours a week, some weeks not even that (it would be outing to say any more). He also is doing a course at the moment, he attends classes 2 days a week though doesn’t always turn up. He also looks after our child 1 day per week whilst I work.
I came home from work last night late to him sitting on the sofa watching the TV, the kitchen was a mess. Dishwasher hadn’t been emptied from the morning, dirty dishes piled up on top of it, surfaces and highchair hadn’t been wiped. Slow cooker hadn’t been cleaned from the night before. Nothing cooked for dinner. Washing still on the line from when I’d hung it out in the morning. This is a regular occurrence.
I do 99% of everything in the house, all cleaning, washing floors, cleaning bathrooms, hoovering and washing. He would never do any of the above. I also do majority of food shopping, meal planning though he probably does do half the cooking. Things like making sure little one has clean clothes, batch cooking meals, taking bins out etc etc the list is endless, all fall to me. I’m just so tired.
With childcare, yes he looks after her one day a week whilst I work but I have to wake him up or he wouldn’t get up. He never gets up early in the morning, he has a drink problem though is a very high functioning alcoholic I’d say. He drinks on average half a bottle of spirits a night (doesn’t drink before little one is in bed). He stays up really late, say between 3-5am and then sleeps till around midday the next day. He never gets up in the morning with little one, I mean never. I have to wake him up the day he looks after little one.
We rarely argue and we do get on, spend time sitting together having dinner and watching TV etc in the evening. However, the last few days I’ve just been feeling bleuch, there’s got to be more to this, I very rarely get a break. I never get a lie in and I mean never, unless my parents take her overnight.
I do every night wake up, morning, breakfast routine, bath and bed time…this morning I got up and his socks were on the living room floor, empty beer can and glass on the side, dirty dishes and rubbish on top of the counter above dishwasher. I had to tidy up as my parents were coming to look after little one. I then put on tonight’s dinner, whereas he just gets up as late as he possibly can and goes (he has class today).
Sorry if this is garbled, I’ll probably end up adding more as there’s bit I’ve forgotten. I don’t know what I want from this, just needed to vent.