Hello there,
For me: Friendship should be nurture in both way...
I'm just more and more confuse by the way you have to deal with relationship as you get older.
Basically I gave birth to my first child early this year (I'm in my late 30's) so have experienced most of my friends becoming mums and was happy for them as you should be.
I told face to face last year, one of my long time friend (over 15 years) that I was pregnant and she seems happy for me so when I announced the birth of my BB, I was a bit surprised that she just congratulated me briefly by text and asked me to send my address (I am an expat for over 10 years in the UK and tried to maintain friendship regardless, but it's not easy)...anyway I was witness at her first weeding and godmother to her son.
Then: SILENT no news or call for 4 months not even a text asking how I was doing (I don't have my family or many friends around)...but I received a card and a BB gift four months after the birth.
When I tried to call her to say thank you, she didn't pick up and said that she was busy so she will call me back....then nothing...it's been nearly 10 months and nothing. Now her birthday is coming.
I'm flipping between contacting her or not.
No, because she clearly showned a poor interest in what I consider the best moment in my life (no interest for my health or my BB) and another part said Yes that I should shift the friendship to acquaintance therefore send a basic Birthday wish and know what to expect for in the future...Would you send a Birthday text or not ?