"I had to be annoyed with someone"

[GreenPillow]

After DS kept us up on and off all night, 'D'H was in a grump this morning so I asked why he was annoyed at me. His response was "I had to be annoyed with someone".

Wtf I was the one trying to settle DS all night and I'm ill with a cold.

Not sure what I'm looking for in posting this but perhaps reassurance I'm not wrong to be irritated by that comment.

I get why you irritated.

But have you honestly just never been in a bad mood and ended up being snappy with someone even though you know it's not their fault?

I am snappy as fuck today. My uncle died due to a result of poor medical care and we had his funeral. I am angry and upset. So I am at work keeping my head down and not talking to anyone.

His words are a poor choice. But he is tired, as are you.

Unless this a patterns where he blames you for everything, I would let it go and speak to him about it later. Just mention that being angry at eachother isn't going to help.

My ex-wife once didn't talk to me for two days before admitting that someone at work had annoyed her but she didn't feel it would be professional to take it out on them. That was the first day. The second day was because she didn't want to apologise.

If that helps.

I think it's more because he always seems to be moaning or on at me about something. Weeks of illness and months of interrupted sleep have taken us into a negative rut.

I won't be too hard on him then.

He should manage his own emotions. Not OK to be arsey to you.