Is it only my dh?

[Sunhill4]

My dh never seems to have any idea why I might be pissed off with him even when it's very obvious to me! Even when I have explained before in great detail what is upsetting to me!!

Anyone else in the same boat or is it just mine that leaves me to it and assumes it must be my time of the month and nothing to do with him?!

What sorts of things are you talking about?

I don't know...I never get pissed off with mine without mentioning why.

I don't think it's a good idea to get in a grump with someone and just expect them to know why OP. It's very unhealthy. And not fair to the other person.

But i have told him only 2 weeks ago but nothing changes. We don't spend any time together, have sex, have any affection, even watch tv together unless i suggest it. When i do suggest/initiate anything he seems happy enough to go along with it but absolutely nothing if left to him. Now i'm fed up again, being quiet & staying out the way cos i give up!

I have opened up to him and told him how sad it makes me feel so what's the point in keeping telling him.

Well you're at the next stage then, aren't you? The conversation about is he happy? Can you carry on like this? (No). Is there a decision that needs to be made?

He knows why you are pissed off. Or rather, he know that you are unhappy with lack of affection ,attention, company and sex. You have talked about it. Exemptions any learning difficulties - he KNOWS why if you've had the conversation.

The question is why he doesn't choose to a- change. B- talk himself or c - leave

He knows. I’m afraid it looks like he just doesn’t care.

Time to have a more serious discussion about the future I think. If he’s not willing to change anything, then this is how things will be for you forever. Are you happy with that?