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Original poster

Am I cheating on my OH?

15 replies

mrsgrinchx · 02/12/2018 21:12

Me and my oh haven't been getting on we've been arguing everyday and to be honest I'm quite sick of him. I'm tired of being controlled and being told off for not cleaning the house from top to bottom when I'm at uni and trying to raise two kids under 2!

I've started talking to a woman on a dating site! I've only ever been with one girl in my younger days.

It sounds awful but the thought of meeting up with her excites meBlush

He knows I was talking to her but thinks I've deleted it.

OP posts:
Pinkyyy · 02/12/2018 21:17

I'd say that you are certainly crossing the line to begin with by being on a dating site and you connecting with someone and planning to meet them is cheating in my opinion. If you are unhappy in your relationship then by all means leave, but I don't think you should be welcoming in the new without first getting rid of the old

Omunye · 02/12/2018 21:19

If you're not happy in your relationship then end it. Signing up to relationship sites while you're in a relationship is scummy and yes you are cheating.

Orange6904 · 02/12/2018 21:24

Leave him then and then you can do whatever you want.

Itiswhatitisso · 02/12/2018 22:25

Um. Yes?
Unless you are just talking about the weather?

Pinkyyy · 02/12/2018 23:22

Even talking about the weather is unacceptable given that you're talking on a dating site.

WorraLiberty · 02/12/2018 23:27

Why would you even ask this?

You're on a dating site, chatting someone up.

What do YOU think? Confused

SilverySurfer · 03/12/2018 02:10

If you wouldn't show your OH your conversations with this woman then you're cheating. It's not rocket science is it Hmm

ree348 · 03/12/2018 02:34

Yes, you're cheating.

trojanpony · 03/12/2018 06:21

Yes I would consider this cheating and leave you.

You sound like you are doing this to escape your current life though

maximumcarnage · 03/12/2018 06:27

What are you doing on a dating site to begin with? Never mind chatting to someone on there. If you’re not happy and you don’t want to make it work, leave. Then you can do what you please.

VioletPickles · 03/12/2018 06:29

Would you think he was cheating if he did the same?

Alfiemoon1 · 03/12/2018 07:20

Yes it’s cheating. Either leave him and then u can do what ever you want or end it with the ow and concentrate on your relationship with dp

Original poster
mrsgrinchx · 03/12/2018 08:17

I wish I could leave him but I can't I'm stuck whenever I try end things he goes "you can't end things with me"

OP posts:
SillySallySingsSongs · 03/12/2018 08:19

You are cheating. Made worse by the fact your OH knows and you are continuing to lie.

SandyY2K · 03/12/2018 08:27

I wish I could leave him but I can't I'm stuck whenever I try end things he goes "you can't end things with me"

This is a matter of choice. You choose to stay with him.

You can end it if you want to.

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