I see a lot on here and RL when a couple with young children split, one or both tend to be able to move on quite quickly, and usually have more children with the next partner, and the partner is involved in raising the step children etc. All good.
My dd is older, and I just can't envision a partner (when I meet him 
) moving into our home, being a step parent etc. Dd is very close to her dad and sees him regularly. I feel like the time period for a 'blended family' to work has passed and this is a bit of a limbo period until dd is older. I don't want any more children.
Can anyone who met their partner when your children were older, and did not have any more children, tell me your experiences? How did your partner fit into your life, without being a hands on step parent (in the sense of raising young children with you). I'm thinking about older kids not going to bed until later so not much private time except when dd is at her dads etc.