DH and I agree on most things except for one.
When dcs are unwell, DH gets sad, serious and anxious and mollycoddles them regardless of what it is.
My approach is to soothe with lots of cuddles and kisses better and with a “you’ll be as right as rain soon” sort of approach.
I think it comes from our own different family styles.
His family are lovely but any kind of illness is treated with, what it seems to me, over seriousness. For example a cold is treated with a life or death sort of sympathy.
I wonder if it has anything to do with my brother growing up with a life threatening illness which thankfully he recovered from but maybe that has affected my perception of what is normal. My parents dealt with his illness with humour and positivity and never made him feel that the illness was going to get the better of him. So if anyone had a minor ailment such as a cold or such, their approach was what I learnt to be the norm.
I find DH’s approach a bit indulgent and I’m concerned that our dcs will grow up to be too soft when it comes to illness. And at worst, see illness as a way of attention.
I realise there is no right or wrong way. But it is causing tension between us as he has expressed upset that I’m uncaring if any of his family has a cold for example and I don’t take it seriously.