I need help with how I handle this ongoing situation. DH has 2 daughters, 13 and 12. He sees them once a month for a weekend due to distance. Whatever happens that weekend is 100% in the control of his daughters. They have to stay in a 4 star hotel, eat where they want, go where they want, everything. We live 200 miles away and they don’t come here because they would rather stay in a hotel. If something else is arranged and they don’t want to do it then guess what happens. I feel that my DH thinks they won’t love him if he actually acts as a parent. They speak to each other on phone or FaceTime at least 3 times a day and the eldest and him send love hearts to each other. All of this frustrates me as it affects me when I am left alone due to work, pets, I cannot follow him to be included. He still refers to himself in the third person to them. They were only 4 and 5 when we met so he doesn’t seem to have acknowledged that they have grown up, apart from buying them a ton of makeup! Whatever they ask for they get. Mobiles, TVs, makeup and it is so hard for me to stand by and watch this. I have two daughters, 24 and 26, and their father and I split up when they were 14 and16 so i have been on the other side but experienced nothing like this. Is this normal with father’s and daughters when relationships break down? How should I handle this as at the moment I am fuming as to how they control him?