Hello, I have two babies two under two. It's hard work most days but I love them so much... since having two under two my other half has been very stressed. Mostly because of the things that have happened this year. this year we lost our home, had to rehome our two dogs, lost the car and trust with some family members. The only good thing this year, was having my four month old. He also lost the job he loved.. So we ended up staying a few weeks at his mum's while we sorted our life out. we've now found somewhere, and we are picking ourselves back up in our home but we are on universal credits, so my partner has a strict find a job routine. The problem is no jobs are coming up. it's getting him down he keeps saying he has no purpose, and is really miserable. We constantly get into arguments, he says mean things, and then says he doesn't mean them. it's a reflection on him, but I can't help but feel he does mean the things he says. Most days I dread the moods he will be in, my one year old picks up on it. I have a 4 month old who I'm breastfeeding who is now sensing my moods. I'm getting very down, when I tell him this he says I'm being unsurportive. I'm very lost in it all. He then says this is who he is now. I know he is depressed I keep asking him to see a doctor, but he says I'm putting the responsibility onto somone else. I'm not being a supportive parther. I'm honestly trying my best, but he is making it impossible. When I say the positives. I'm wrong. When I'm negative I'm wrong. I don't know what to do. I love him so much he says he loves me, andwhen he is in a better mood I forgive him, and then he is triggered again and he instantly goes back to being mean again it's a repeat cycle. He keeps saying he feels useless in the family now being on universal credits not supporting his family. But he isn't useless he is a good dad. Just not a good partner at the moment I'm venting fast and sad I'm currently feeding little one in bed while he is watching t.v after another bad mood!