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Just had the police around... again...

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WellDoneTiger · 30/11/2018 22:38

First time I have called them when my ex was in the house threatening me. I have previously been far too afraid of him. He left long before they arrived. They said the only thing I can do is to get an injunction.

He has been physically violent to me in the past, and I called the police after we’d fought. He punched me and I retaliated. The police arrived, asked if I wanted to press charges. I declined as I thought I was as guilty as he was for retaliating. This was in 20th century. I don’t remember the police writing down much. I hope they can provide me with evidence that they came to our home that night.

It is the relentless lies that he tells that gets me. He flatly denied doing a revolting sexual thing to a friend. When a former friend said he groped her, he denied it as well. I see him for what he is. He’s an abusive rapist. He lives in an alternative reality.

There is nothing I can do without an injunction.

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WellDoneTiger · 01/12/2018 09:49

Has anyone else been in this situation?

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BifsWif · 01/12/2018 09:50

I haven’t been in this situation but it sounds awful.

Do you have children together? What’s stopping you getting the injunction?

WellDoneTiger · 01/12/2018 18:01

My solicitor advised me that since he had moved out, and had been behaving reasonably ok it would be unlikely to be granted. The police yesterday advised me to contact the police force involved when my ex used physical violence against me to get an incident number. It was a long time ago.

The full horror of living with him is unfolding and I really feel that I must have been insane to stay for so long.

Yesterday it was like being trapped in the film Gaslight.

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