This is long but I need to get it out, I can't say anything to anyone in real life Incase it gets out.
Me & DH have been together 12 years we are married have 2 children. We have been through tough times him losing his job (recession) working away, been really tight for money. But have always had a good relationship we get on well most of the time barring the odd argument. I love him but I'm not sure if I'm in love with him. I don't feel like I could or even if I want to leave him. But I can't stop thinking about someone else, I have known him for years so has DH we live in a small town were everyone knows each other kind of thing. I was out on night a few months ago and saw him we were chatting (in a group) but he looked at me and I could feel the chemistry between us. I know that sounds really pathetic! Anyway I have seen him a few more times since that and I feel it every time, he is a tradesman and we have been having work done in our house by him. I can't stop thinking about him, I saw him out the other week and I'm just drawn to him I know I shouldn't be but I feel like I can't control it. I have no idea if he thinks the same (probably not) but the way I feel scares me because I think if I was ever alone with him I would try and act on my feelings. It's definitely just a sexual thing for him. Me & DH have sex every week but I don't really enjoy it or get into. How can I stop feeling like about this other guy.