To tell Dh and his freind to bugger off

[rosekettie]

Can someone tell me honestly if I am overreacting here? I just told my husband and his friend to bugger off from my house. The friend has stormed off to his house. My husband is fuming with me that I have disrespected his mate and him.

I am in the bedroom upstairs writing a dissertation. His friend came for a cup of tea below my bedroom in the kitchen. I could hear their conversation clearly. They were discussing how pathetic is the news that the boy in Huddersfield that was bullying a Syrian boy is going to prison for that, saying if it was an English boy it would not have been on the news. Now, I am a foreigner, my children are foreigners. My husband and his friend are English. I was fuming listening to them, That Syrian child on the playground could have been my son, it could have been anyone's child, I would feel exactly the same (English or not). I went down to tell them to stop or go out and discuss this somewhere else as I put up with this shit outside, in the streets but I don't want to endure it in my own home.. that my home is my sanctuary... and they started to talk me out of it. At that point, I just lost it and told them both to bugger off😰😱

Am I in the wrong here... his friend is now demanding an apology which I am not giving.

Thank you.

And OP good for you, don’t apologise. Tell them both to apologise to you.

Your H sounds like a dick.

I told BIL that he would be leaving my flat under similar circumstances. Wanker. He hasn't improved over time.

Don't apologise. A bully is a bully. That young Syrian boy could have committed suicide over his treatment. We read such horrible stories all the times these days.

Really hate how this incident is turning into us v them. Despicable.

If I was writing a dissertation then everyone can fuck off afaic

Tell your husband that he and his friend can't demand respect, they have to earn it.

And no, you have nothing to apologise for.

No way you should apologise! It’s your home and you shouldn’t have to deal with that in your own home, like you said.
Hope you’re ok.

GreenTulips is talking absolute rubbish. Hate crime is not judged on whether the victim is any particular race. It's down to everyone being protected in the same way. So just as an example, if a group of Asian kids were picking on a white kid because they were white, in law that should be treated EXACTLY the same as the other way round.

I'd be fuming too, couldn't be with someone who thought like that, ever. And yes, I'm white British.

You should apologise.
Your exact words should be
“I’m sorry your a racist cunt.”

a minority is protected by law
We are all protected by laws so that sssault is a crime. What does this even mean?

if it was an English boy it would not have been on the news
So they think that the press is too left-wing and thus focuses too much on minorities, putting white people second? Do they go so far as to think that white people are actually disadvantaged because of pro-diversity efforts? Were you aware of your husband's political views before you married?

They should be apologising to you.

Stand your ground. You should be proud of yourself for calling them out on it in the first place.

Don't apologise! I'm on another forum and so many people commenting on the thread about the fact that bullying is bad but if he was white/English blah blah blah. It's infuriating