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Mental Health against me

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MrwhoknowsD · 29/11/2018 13:15

Not sure where to be begin. I have been separated from Ex Wife 2 years, it's no secret it has been the hardest thing I have ever had to go through and to "let go" and move on up until now has been near impossible for me. This past year I have been in & out of hospital with a couple incidents. I've been struggling with major anxiety and depression for years although for the most part ignored it and put it down to a "bad day" for near on 10 years. I admit I don't react well to things that upset me but I'm trying to change that. I'm starting to see a therapist which I would say is helping alot until this last episode where my ex has decided that my reaction to a truly fucked up situation which involved someone from her life intruding on mine. and this is grounds to now keep my children away from me as she fears my mental health will in someway impact them negatively. She has cut all communication until she has found "professional advice" without any explanation as to what prompted it other than the events over the last few weeks which as usual is easier to pin on someone who gets angry when they feel like they are constantly in the wrong, and as a mother she holds all the cards regarding contact with the children. I'm struggling with what to do next and for the future

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MrwhoknowsD · 29/11/2018 17:09

nctoreplytoyourpost I have absolutely no intention on giving up on them at all. It's just crap year for everyone involved. Like I've said lots of things I could have handled better.. and one of the more staggering lessons I've learned is that good intentions mean shit. Only wish I understood that years ago.

person says it's too stressful and I need a break, not sure when I can manage again... who isn't the RP and doesn't have responsibility for the majority of the time for the care of the DC was probably closer to it. maybe not quite those words but the "notice" i guess you could call it was a week as we both struggled to get into a consistent arrangement due to my living arrangements.

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nctoreplytoyourpost · 29/11/2018 17:30

I'm glad you are going to put your DC first and do what it takes for your DC. Makes you 1000 x a kinder more empathetic father than sadly mine have

I think good intentions have been sadly shortsighted. If a woman is signed off sick from work for example for a month by a doctor - she isn't given permission anywhere in that to not parent for that month. If she does... kids in care, fight to get them back, maybe never get them back if she can't prove she's stable

Now my exH in his breaks for stress- was able to continue working, date women, move home, go out drinking, go on shopping sprees but somehow he couldn't cope with visiting or being visited by DC

Really unless hospitalised urgently with MH - I don't think you can have a break from your kids

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