My husband has left me

[Noodledoodlesandspud]

Just that really. I'm feeling so overwhelmed. I'm upset that he's left and I'm terrified about how ill cope financially.

He said he can't stay as I'm so difficult to live with, he can't tell me anything about because he's scared about how ill react.

I suffer from pnd so I admit that I'm not the easiest person to be around at times but he's lied to me repeatedly in the past so he's not all sunshine.

I have 3 young children (5,3 & 16 months) I work on a zero hours contract so don't get working tax credit. I have my wages and child tax credit/child benefit but that's it. I'm terrified about what I'm going to do.
My dc are devastated.

I'm not sure why I've posted. I guess I just need to let all the shit out.

He has behaved utterly appallingly here. Do not blame yourself for his leaving; he has done this of his own accord here. Do you know where he has gone?.

Do you feel that your marriage is now well and truly over?.

I would contact the Rights of Women as they could help you further here. Their number is 020 7251 6577 (from 7-9pm this evening and 12-2 during the day).

First thing you need to do is to sort out your finances so you have a roof over your head - he is your first port of call, if it's just him letting off steam for a couple of weeks will he contribute towards family bills as before? Either way register for UC as it takes time and the sooner you start the better. Can you meet up to talk, ideally without the kids? Even if this is the end, the more you can discuss calmly the better, the only people who win if you have to go to court are the lawyers.

Thinking of you, please don't panic, one step at a time

Thank you. He's moved into a friends spare room. From what he says it's completely over.
I've rung the council and got an application for housing benefit which will hopefully help. I'm hoping he will pay some money towards the boys.

Oh gosh I'm so sorry that's very harsh of him! It sounds like you desperately need his support not him walking away.
I just don't get these men who up and leave when the going gets tough!! Infuriating. Make sure you get finances sorted first, and then get him to take some of the share of the childcare. Just because he's left doesn't mean he can't take care of his children and to be honest it sounds like you need a break. Hugs xx

Really sorry op any warning that he would do this? Don't have much practical advice that others haven't given but look after yourself and get support from friends family and or on here x

Don't hope for money from your ex. Put in a claim with CSA now !