Will I find love or be loved again.

[Sarah2302]

I lost my dad in April, he was my best friend, my rock, without him everything is grey. I can’t seem to see a future without him 8 months on. This is so much pain to carrry forever.

I’ve also decided to leave my husband of 10 years (talked about this on previous posts). This is a good thing as he is horrible.

I’ve got my mum and my daughter age 2 but I feel so alone. I haven’t had a cuddle for months now, my mum is not a cuddler.

Will this get better, are there any positive stories, will there be love again for me. I feel so unloved now my dad has gone.

Statistically, yes - most people do. But it’s up to you to maximise your chances of it happening my making sure you’re in an emotionally healthy place so that you have the capacity to give love and bring something to a potential partner’s life (as opposed to just wanting to be loved by someone yourself) and recognise good men from bad ones.

It sounds like you’re still very much in the raw stage of recovering from your bereavement and also only newly out of a long marriage. These things take time. Don’t rush to replace your dad’s love for you with another man in your life or to get over your husband. Take the time to grieve properly for both endings and explore your needs and desires.

You say you haven't had a cuddle for months, what about cuddling your little girl and teaching her to be a cuddler? I'm so sorry to hear about your dad but I'm sure he would want you to be strong and be there for your little girl, his grand daughter and find happiness for her and yourself. Who knows if you will meet someone romantically, I'm sure you will but try and focus on making yourself happy first

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I’m just feeling very alone right now and weak. I feel like I’ve lost my support structure and I’m scared of the unknown. I do cuddle my little girl all the time, I think she is getting annoyed with all the hugging now! But you are right, I need to figure this all out, my brain just feels like mush and I’m so tired. I really thought that leaving an abussive relationship would have been easy emotionally, nobody shouting at me treating me like a slave but it’s not.

You know even bad habits are hard to break and you still need to grieve the loss of the relationship to be able to move on and when you let yourself do that and come out the other end you'll be able to then be happy that you left it behind you. Be kind to yourself

You are doing so well. It's great you've left your husband it shows you are strong at a particularly difficult time. Treat yourself with flowers and doing nice things. I wish you luck.