AIBU to run a mile?

[CupcakeBabaPoo]

An AIBU but I don't dare post it over there!

I met a man on OLD. We had a few dates and have really hit it off. He would message me every morning and at the weekend he told me he really liked me.

Anyway, he had said before that one of his fantasies was for me to have sex with another man (don't know if he wanted to watch or not) then he could make me his. I brushed it off and said I wouldn't do that. That was the end of it until last night. He basically said again he wanted me to 'misbehave' with someone else so he could then make me all his. I said I wasn't going to (again) and he laid on the guilt trip (I will just have to accept it :( blah blah). Then he pretty much had a strop and I haven't spoken to him since....

So, AIBU to never see him again? Each to their own but I don't think it's healthy that he is trying to pressurise me into sleeping with someone else. Also, I haven't had my morning text today

That’s odd! I have never come across that
I now feel really elderly

Well it's a pretty unanimous vote! It does make me feel a lot better so thank you. Will be staying clear of OLD I think!

Umbongo - I'm 30 and I've never come across it before!! It just struck me as a bit vain

I agree with Itwasatuesday. The man is entitled to his fantasies, I suppose. He is NOT, however, entitled to putting an ounce of pressure on you to carry them out and even less guilt tripping you into thinking you're wrong not to want to.

ps I had something similar happen to me on OLD 2 years ago. I blocked him within seconds. By the looks of things he's till on the same site searching for the rare pearl who could indulge his in his fantasies.

I think it's going to be a long and fruitless search.

Online dating doesn't have some weird sex etiquette outside of 'regular' dating. No still means no, boundaries are still boundaries.
It's strange that you had to ask, regardless of how 'new' you are to dating.

Fig all, why is he cruising regular dating sites instead of swinging/cuckold/polygamy/whatever this falls under,no don't know sites and networks?

Cause he's casting his net wide, cause he's a chancer, cause he's delusional?

No, you're most definitely not a prude to not want to start a relationship on the basis of fucking some other guy to please a man and fulfill his sexual fantasy (which is not your sexual fantasy).

You're not a prude if you don't want to do anything you don't want to do, but for the record this is hardly mainstream. Cheeky, chancing bastard.

Fig all - fkg ell 😀

I hadn't heard of it until Mumsnet! There was a poster a few years ago whose long term partner forced her into this, even taking money for hiring her out. I believe she was a strong, educated woman before she met her partner, the experience dragged her down. Her post was awful to read, I sincerely hope she got away.

Urgh, horrid fantasy and derogatory to women to my mind.

I feel like I've had a really lucky escape. Despite me blocking him, he rang from another number and apologised.... It still hasn't changed my mind and I won't be seeing him again.

I feel like I've had a really lucky escape.

You have! I bet he isn't half as "nice" when he isn't trying to coerce you into indulging his fantasy.

So he has yet again ignored you and pushed his own agenda. You told him it was over and blocked him which he must have known so yeah, run many, many miles and we'll done OP!

He really doesn't respect your boundaries at all, does he?
Well done for getting rid cupcake.

Thank you It's a bit of an achievement for me because I normally let people walk all over me.