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Living apart - the right thing?

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Humbug0108 · 26/11/2018 15:09

Bit of background on this we've been together for 4 years, have 1 child each from previous relationship. Lived together for 2 years, had a lot of ups and downs. The ups are fantastic which make a lot of the downs worthwhile. We've struggled a lot with his family accepting me (his dad is most of the time a complete a*se to everyone not just me though)
I've given up my chance to have more children as he does not want anymore and also the chance to own a house together as his dad wants to put money into a house for my partner in his name only not mine.
We've moved into a bigger house recently (rented) and out of a smaller house my family member owned which is cheaper rent. Basically things have come to a head that our relationship needs work - many things discussed.
Should i move back to the smaller cheaper house with my son (for security) or stay and let the smaller house be sold? Crunch time as i need to give an answer today on smaller house as they've got an offer. My heart says stay and hope things are different and not disrupt ds, my head says stick with security at least move back for a few months and see if things change - but I am usually an over cautious person (I've been burnt with divorce already)
Any advice welcome please

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Singlenotsingle · 26/11/2018 15:15

Move back to smaller house and see how it goes. Not only is your relationship a bit up and down, but also and MORE IMPORTANT, you'll never have security or peace of mind if you live in a house that's in his name only. If things go wrong, he could chuck you out in a heartbeat. You need to sort your relationship out before doing anything.

DiaryofWimpyMum · 26/11/2018 15:59

I would move to the smaller house, at least you have security living there.

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