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Is this my issue?

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CaveDivingbelle · 26/11/2018 13:34

Am willing to be told im unreasonable....partner has 2 teenage children who live with his ex. They live at the other side of the country. Going to visit means that to make it worthwhile he will go for a week or two. Thing is...he stays at the old family home, and that's with his ex who has " moved on" he says but they seem firm friends. So the whole time is just like they'd never split..family outings etc. Would this make anybody jealous? suspicious? If I tell people that this is how it works they go " oh yeah..." kind of really sarcastically, so they're obviously on that wavelength too..

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Musti · 26/11/2018 13:47

What are his options? If they wanted to be together they would be together so no point getting jealous. Short of moving closer, it is probably the only way he can spend quality time with his kids.

My boyfriend goes to his ex's house most days to look after the kids there because of her working hours. Still early days but they split up for a reason and now he's with me. If they wanted to be together it would be a lot simpler for them to be together. I don't have a problem with this because he does it for his children and to spend time with them, not to see his ex.

gruffalomom · 26/11/2018 15:15

I can completely see why you are uneasy with This, it's fully understandable. But on the flip side I think maintaining a strong relationship with his co-parent is in everyone's best interest so I think it will just be part and parcel of a relationship with your dp to put up with these things.

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