Hi Everyone,
Me and my husband have been together for 5 years and married for 1. I always had a good relationship with his dad, brothers and best friend. Well that was until our daughter was born.
When my husband's mum died I moved 100 miles to be with him, I left everything behind to support him. His dad and brothers would be round constantly. Then unfortunately we had a miscarriage at 16 weeks and I was critically unwell. I told him if I was to get pregnant again I'd be moving back home for the support of my family, I never once put him in the position he had to move with me. We had done long distance again I said I'd be willing to travel up every weekend. However he put his house up for sale and as soon as we had our daughter he moved up.
Since then his dad has only seen our daughter 4 or 5 times and his brothers haven't seen her for 2 years now. They are now kicking off because I won't cancel my plans one weekend before Christmas to drive her up to see them?
To make matters worse my husband's best friend. Jesus where do I even start. We asked him to be our daughters god father. I mean it's my husband's best friend he desperately wanted him to be god father. Me and his best friend have always had a love/hate relationship but it got much worse when we were planning the wedding. My husband didn't want to go abroad for his stag but because his best friends a big drinker he took him away to Barcelona for 5 nights. The night before they flew our daughter was rushed into hospital and we told his best friend that but his best friend confiscated his phone and refused to give it back. That's until my uncle who's a police officer rang up going insane. We had no other help from his best friend then for the wedding.
However a month before the wedding it was his best friends 30th birthday. His best friend wanted us both to go to Ibiza with him so I paid for us both to go. Now I don't live in people's pockets at all so said I didn't mind going out at night together but I wanted a day just me and my husband. When we got to Ibiza his best friend had planned every minute of our every day.
Fast forwarded 3 weeks we flew out for our wedding. We messaged his best friend to say we had made a few plans for our daughter and everyone else was coming. He told us his wife didn't want to do that. I also asked him to get ready with my husband the day of the wedding. He said his wife didn't want to be left alone to get ready on her own. He flew out on the Monday, the same day as my husband's family. Our husband's family surprised us at our hotel so we took them for cocktails as my best friend had our daughter. Whilst we were out his best friend text to say his wife was asleep and demanded my husband met him for a beer. Obviously he declined as we were out and then he tried to guilt trip him.
The day after we were going to a water park and invited them both. It was for our daughter as we wanted her to spend time with everyone before the wedding. She doesn't see these people very often and is very nervous and we didn't want that at the wedding. Again they declined. They eventually met us for tea and my husband's best friend and his wife ignored me ALL evening. He grabbed hold of my daughter and she was screaming the place down I asked him to put her down and he wouldn't. In the end my daughter was that stressed I had to leave to take her back to the hotel.
That was the night before the wedding. My husband's best friend then took him out and got him WASTED. I then found out when I'd nipped out during the day my husband had left our daughter with my friends and gone out drinking.
The wedding wasn't much better. His best friend was kicking off because I wouldn't have a photo of us 2 and them 2. Even though at his wedding I was 36 weeks pregnant, left on my own, ignored and in no photos. They ignored me again and it was so awkward. We had a party when we returned back to the UK and I did a speech thanking people for all the help they do for our DD and DH. Again his best mate kicked off because I didn't thank him.
Err thank him for what. Now his best friend has asked a couple of times for my DH and DD to go up and visit but I'm not invited. I've put my foot down and said my DH can go but not my DD. Why when he was 5 minutes away abroad could he not be arsed to see my DD but now he's a 2 hour drive away he wants to see her. Thing is the finger is always pointed at me. My DH was on a course with work the other week for 3 weeks he was 15 minutes away from his best friend but said he couldn't be arsed to see him.
However now it's Christmas all these 4 people are climbing out the wood works and demanding they see our DD and I have to cancel plans. As you can imagine all of this has courses A LOT of nasty arguments between me and my DH.
What would you do??!!