Not sure what is best to do

[notsurewhattosay]

I'm a regular,but have namechanged incase anyone who knows me reads this.

I've been living where I am for 5years, and love my dh deeply. I was informed by a friend that an ex bf (well, not really bf, just sex tbh)was moving into the village. I never saw him, until earlier this week.

We were mates, and it sort of went out of hand, but we were both single at the time.

We talked just like good mates who hadn't seen each other for years (it has been over 7years. We both have dc (he has a dd), and as we are both within a 2minute walk from each other, his dp has invited us over for a bbq next week. Both me and dh wants to attend, both ex and his dp are lovely, and their ddis just younger than my ds.

However, neither of our dp/dh know about the past. It is never going to happen again, we are both very happy, and we do all want to be mates.

DH is asking how I know him so well, just told him we were good mates when we were in our teens (which we were before incidents!)

Is it worth telling dh what happened, or just leave it as it is?

Thanks

depends on how you think your dh would take it , but i would say nothing myself

it's past

if you're planning to socialise with them IMO you have to tell them. If they found out they may think something is still going on.

Yes I'd leave it too. There are certain of my/our friends that my DP doesn't know i have a "past" with (though it was only minimal involment as with yours). I don't think he needs to andf it never comes up.

Yes I'd leave it too. There are certain of my/our friends that my DP doesn't know i have a "past" with (though it was only minimal involment as with yours). I don't think he needs to andf it never comes up.

Bum, sorry about that

Thanks, I was planning on not telling dh, and I know ex feels the same way, about telling dp.

When we talked, it was like it was before our "incidents" (it was more than once, and it was not full sex, just a bit of foreplay),but we talked like we used to iykwim

you are mates first and foremost, who happened to have sex for a bit

also it was before your h so i dont see why you have to tell him anything

dead and buried

i am still in touch with most of the male friends i ended up having sex with, i wouldnt feel like i had to explain anything to anyone, they are my friends, simple as that

i think all it will do is sow seeds of paranoia