After 7 months marriage and following a stressful time with a termination and problems at work my wife embarked on an affair with a mm. She said it was an escape from how she was feeling about herself and she felt trapped being a wife and mother. We both work hard rarely argue and I have always done the majority of the childcare and housework and generally given her an easy life with lots of love and affection, though clearly this wasn't enough! We have spent the last year trying to recover our marriage or should I say i have. She has never fully recommitted to us since I gave her the gift of forgiveness. We had a big argument the other night after she gave a guy a lift home, that in itself wasn't the problem. It was the fact that she lied by omission about her whereabouts. She told me she had been out for drinks with work colleagues which was true just not that she left early and gave the guy a lift. What annoys me is the deception and she thinks I'm being unreasonable to be upset about her lying. She doesn't seem to understand that after being lied to and cheated on I'm hyper vigilant about her being late back or bending the truth because it naturally makes me think she's up to something. All it would have taken was a quick text to say I'm giving so and so a lift be back at x and there would have been no issue. Instead she is now withholding affection and giving me the silent treatment for daring to question her. To be honest she has never taken responsibility for her cheating and subsequent behaviour instead turning it around on me and blame shifting. This latest blow up has really made me think whether it's worth carrying on. I've been fighting for our marriage and to keep our family together but feel like I'm running out of steam and can't do this alone. Arrr just need to rant a bit!