ladies opinion sort on treat for wonderful girlfriend

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Hello lovely people of mumsnet, I was hoping you could offer some advice on a little seasonal romantic gesture I’m planning for my girlfriend. I realise this is mumsnet and possibly not be the normal forum for a request like this so apologise to anyone who thinks I’m out of order for posting here but hopefully there will be a few folks on here who don’t mind sharing some ideas with me.

So briefly my plan is to modify an advent calendar for her so it contains a surprise romantic note behind each window to make her smile for each day of December. After w lot of experimenting I have found a advent calendar at the supermarket which I can cunningly dissemble and reassemble so the notes will be a surprise for her when she opens each window.

Where I would really appreciate some advice is on what sort of things to put on the notes. I realise this is personal and will have to come from me but your ideas will hopefully give me inspiration.

So ladies, if you were in her shoes what notes might make you smile and feel appreciated?

Thanks again for reading and any advice offered. My girlfriend is a very hard working mum and I really want to make her feel deservedly loved and appreciated particularly at this time of year.

Are you lot really falling for this shite?

It's kack, MrsG....but it's harmless kack

Smiler0206, I had to do go away with work for a few weeks and did a sort of treasure hunt thing then.. wrote a few postcards in advance which I got my mate to send at set dates while I was away and the postcards were clues to a treasure hunt. She loved it that’s what makes me confident she will appreciate this and won’t find it too full on, I know romantic gestures aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. Totally agree with the other persons comments that cheap/free things sometimes mean more than material things 🙂

@AnyFucker...ha ha, haven't heard that phrase for yonks (kack)

Ive always thought of it as a good northern phrase, but in my head, it's spelt cack

Cack/kack...it's all the same shit to me

You can't think of 24 nice things to say to the woman you love. You're a keeper 😍

I must admit I didn't know how to spell it because I've never needed to write it (before now)

but you're right. It's CACK.

Is it a northern word though?

DP, is that you?!

Include some of your favourite memories as well as things you appreciate about her. It's lovely to know what things stick in your partner's mind as it's easy to assume you enjoyed the same moments if that makes sense.

I'm a right soppy bugger. I'd love this!!

Include a clue for 24 ... leading to a couple of glasses and chilled fizz, posh nibbles optional.

Is there going to be an engagement ring or wedding proposal on day 24??? (or is it too soon for that) 😄

I'd be fuming if I opened an advent calendar door and instead of chocolate there was a sappy note!

Eeeeeeew. OP can't you think of it yourself? We don't know her.
Glad you're not my other half

Go all cheesy on her! Put candles up make her a calender, tell her how much you love her buy her some flowers, make her a meal, she will like it more because you took your time to make it. Trust me I know she will like it, I don't like cringy things but I would love my boyfriend to do that i would probably fall for him more.

In Sainsburys they do a "Make you own one"

I don't bill myself as unromantic, quite the opposite in fact, but god i would hate this and think my DP was a bit immature and in possession of too much time on their hands to be honest. I'm not even sure i'd humour the facade of opening it and smiling/praising you each day for 25 whole days. I'd also be worried the whole affair was leading to a proposal on day 25, like a big lead up ( which would also have be in despair)

I know I sound a right grump, but the whole jars of notes/love tokens thing is so ubiquitous these days, if you go on Etsy or the like people are selling this sort of thing in their droves; if you're going to ask strangers what to write to your own partner then you could always look on there and steal their one-size-fits-all one liners.

Before I get flamed, i do appreciate everyone is different, and i fully hope she likes it if it happens, it's just er....not really romance as i see it!

Give it a go OP Good luck

You really made me laugh talking about how you liked the shaved balls idea - then the next paragraph you said it's a pity I can't add a photo! Eeek! I don't want a photo of that thanks.

I think I'd find it a bit too cheesy and contrived personally. The odd note hidden away is sweet and romantic. When it comes to a whole advert calendar, well, I think I'd just prefer chocolate.