I’ve been with my partner for 5 years. We’re not married but own a home and have a gorgeous 1 year old son together. My issue is that for the last 2 years we have simply cohabited almost as best friends as opposed to having much of a romantic relationship. We’ve only had sex a handful of times, once resulting in conception of our son. The last time we had sex was in August; I accidentally fell pregnant on this occasion and we decided to have an abortion for reasons I won’t go into. Leading up to the appointment I probably would have talked myself out of the abortion but he was insistent he didn’t want another baby so I went through with it. I am not over it but he is.
Fast forward to now and I just can’t get back those “couple-y” feelings. I truly love him but I don’t know if I’m in love with him. He is a great dad, does his bit around the house, makes me laugh, and is generally pleasant to live and raise a child with but there’s nothing more than that. I’m not sure I can live the rest of my life in a sexless relationship with no romance or affection. I’ve spoken to him about it several times and he says all the right things then nothing changes. I know he masturbates (sorry TMI) so I know the urges are there... sorry I’m just waffling now but I don’t know what to do.
I’m 28 and he is 29.