has anyone worked through infidelity in their relationship and if so was it ever the same ?
I name the subject new age as this has been an issue of "sexting" online porn and "nudes" are the topic up for conversation here...
I'll give you a brief background to give this more context.
I'm 26 and have been with my partner for almost 2 years, we moved in together in the summer and 3 months in i found out he had been "sexting" with someone else... the message was from a year ago and appeared to be a one time thing. along side this message which he thought he had deleted (men are so stupid) and i know where to go looking... he had this app called kik which is a messaging service that deletes all messages and leaves no evidence of whats been said to whom, i do believe that it keeps your contacts intact though, however confronted with the issue and the facts he had no choice but to admit what he had done etc.... i decided to move forward.
fast forward to 3 weeks later id fallen at work had surgery and now had to be off for a spell...
taking any chance i could to check his phone i found nudes of him in his deleted photos album clearly deleted from the first time... all the photos taken over the course of the same month (his birthday month in which id taken him on his first holiday abroad for ) and the photos cropped up 2 days after we had came home...
however i had no evidence of the photos going anywhere as he had already cleared his tracks from the previous incident. (i found out in the morning i had to go to work and he was off had all day to make sure i couldnt find anything else)
I far from button up the back, i know he was exchanging them somewhere but he refuses to tell me the truth, says he definitely is telling the truth... blah blah blah.
my issue is i want to forgive him and move forward ive integrated into his life i moved away from my family and his child stays with us often, we have a whole life together and i have no proof and i dont believe that anything has happened in person not that it makes it better.
my question is... has anyone any experience in this ? have you forgiven someone who has betrayed you ?
its more the photos that bothers me.... haunts me actually i can see them in my head and i feel completely crushed and i think that is because i dont believe him about that part of it... why have photos like that on your phone if you havent been sending them to someone ? bulls**t
im hurt and angry and resentful but at the same time im not 100% done and in this life i dont leave anything until i am... i love him with every fiber of my being and i want to move forward but will i ever get those images out of my head ?
i think im a lost cause.
bit of a rant actually but im hoping someone has some advice i cant tell my family or friends or they will hate him... ive given up alot and given him and his child everything and door mat isnt something ive ever been called...
thanks.x