How often do you see your boyfriend?

[tellman]

We’re both so busy with work during the week (100 hours between us) that it’s become the norm to see each other for date night on sat, maybe Sunday lunch together then back to our own for the rest of the week.

Trouble is, currently that means we don’t have much time for other social activities or hobbies.

We’re only a few months into our relationship so at the moment it’s all fine. But I’m starting to wonder if we simply don’t have time for a relationship and it’s inevitably doomed.

I suffer from anxiety so that doesn’t help my pessimistic outlook.

You haven't got time to see more of him and neither has he for you, so it's perfect! But I get what you mean. How is the relationship going to progress if you only see each other once a week? If you accept the situation for what it is, then over time your anxieties will fade and you will feel more secure. I defo wouldn't say it's doomed. Just see how it goes. If one of you had more spare time than the other, then I can see how resentment may creep in but this doesn't seem to be the case?

Like TooOld says, if you're both in the same place, it doesn't seem like a massive issue. I'm in a LDR (bf lives 60 miles away), we both have demanding ft work & have teenagers, so realistically we see each other at weekends & not always then. It's not perfect, & I'd love to spend more time with him, but that's the way it is at the moment. We've been together a year, and I'd say are definitely more committed & enjoy each other more as time passes rather than less despite (because of?) the limited time we get to spend together.

I'm a lone parent work FT , DP works FT & has emails & reports to deal with in the evenings & weekends too so we only get to see each other one night a week occasionally 2 .. suits me though after being single so long I got used to having my own space.. Some nights I do wish he was with me but mostly I'm glad I can slob around in my PJ's with hairy legs & no make up on!! 🤣

2 nights every 4-6 weeks for the first year ish, then 1-2 times per month for a couple of years. Now most weekends, occasionally not. I work shifts and EOW but we have the same friend circle from school so we can still socialise with friends and see one another, at least. Works well for us.
We are moving in together next year (so 4-5 year mark) so that we can see one another more.

I think limited contact works fine and well If it suits you both and there is trust and good communication and you have enough confidence in the relationship, etc. It has slowed down the progression of our relationship maybe but that also suits me, personally.

For the first year it was no more than 2-3 times a week. Two nights and one day, usually Sunday, together.

Slowly you may become more integrated (or not) but you can certainly have a happy connection without being together all week.