Separating amicably while still living (sort of) together... Any tips?

[GingerbreadTeapot]

Been with DP 11 years, have 2 DC - 15 (mine from previous relationship) and 8 (ours, has ASD).

For lots of reasons we will be living together for at least the foreseeable future. We have separate rooms already but will obviously be sharing kitchen etc. We want very much to stay friendly and to co parent the DC.

How can we make this easiest for everyone concerned? Any tips from anyone who has done similar?

Currently in this situation as I can’t afford to move out at the moment
It is very hard emotionally for me as she was/is having an affair
I try to treat it as a friendship rather than a relationship and when it gets difficult I just go to my room and watch a movie or something
My cousin had the same but it was easier for him as they had a big house and sort of set two rooms up as a mini bedsit kind of thing
Good luck

I did it. Decided to split 18mths ago but he could not afford to move out. We have a son with ASD also. We slept separate but that was about all. We wanted to keep things amicable for our sons' sake.
Other people seemed to have a problem with our set up and that was one of the hardest factors to deal with tbh. The negativity was astounding! People telling him to leave, telling me to kick him out etc.
The other difficult factor is that once you have decided you no longer want a relationship with your other half, you are forced to live together and bizarrely ignore all the things that are wrong about it. In the end it was horrible for both of us.
We both had relationships with others, which eased the situation. I think it would have been awful if only one of us did. You might want to discuss the possibility of this happening.
The most important thing is to check in at least once a week. Ask each other how they are doing, discuss improvements to the situation. Learn how to bite your tongue where normally you may have reacted. Overall, think of your children, put them first and don't let them witness any fall-out. Tell other people to politely 'mind their own business'. Keep yourself busy, especially in the evenings when you would normally have spent time together. It took us a while to slowly separate from doing the 'norm'.
Don't shy away from discussing who is going to move out, when etc. Don't push the issue but set realistic goals.
For me, I had to eventually say that our 'situation' couldn't continue. I was in limbo land, couldn't move on. It really got to me. He left a couple of weeks ago and it's a huge weight off my shoulders. Our son has had plenty of preparation to get used to the idea and he has accepted it extremely well. When discussing the situation with his child psychologist a few months back, they could not praise us enough for how we were handling it, keeping a united front for his sake.

You haven't mentioned the background to your situation, it could well be a lot different to mine.
I wish you well

Thank you both.

The background is just that we drifted apart, ended up at each others throats (metaphorically), and he took the decision to end it but tbh it was only a matter of time before one of us did. I still love him and I'm devastated tbh but have to keep going for the kids.

We live in a sort of shared house (along the lines of a commune but not quite) and have always had our own rooms anyway so it shouldn't be this much of a gut wrenching shock to me. But I feel absolutely empty and unwell with grief right now. I didn't expect to feel this upset.

I'm there now, no advice really, its shitty and hard most of the time :(